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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for six years we rarely see each other, he works part time and when he has time off he says he needs alone time. All he does is play video games! I don't know what to do. We talk for hours every day on the phone, it's just not the same as seeing him.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (17 February 2008):
 Your b/f has two loves, you and his addictive games.It might as well be his second g/f.
He is addicted and you will find that whatever you say to him will just fall on deaf ears.
You may reason with him gently at first but if nothing works, you need to walk away from him to make him realize his follies. His games is destroying him and your relationship bit by bit ..
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reader, rootsreggaerocknroll  +, writes (16 February 2008):
hmm this is a tricky problem. I live with a boyfriend who plays WoW most nights and it can be very aggravating. Last summer We lived several hours apart so I was in the same situation as you (phone calls in the evening, work / games in the day. So I called him once a week saying 'I'm coming over to yours at such and such a time' so he knew to make those times special and keep them free for me. Cutting down on our pointless conversations and making our limited time special made us appreciate each other.
He needs to relax the same as you do, but try and put your concerns to him gently and politely and hopefully he;ll take notice. Good luck!
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reader, loveee +, writes (16 February 2008):
 hello,
you have been with your boyfriend for 6 years this is a long peirod in both of your lifes, and you oviosly still have a lot to talk about from the long phone calls to each other.Talk to your boyfriend and see why he wants time alone. Every one needs their personal space but try telling him how it is making you feel he may of never relised. and ask your self a few questions. do you love him? Is this relationship going anywhere? But most importantly does he make you happy?
All the best.God Bless. xx
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reader, polarkite  +, writes (16 February 2008):
 Video games are addictive. Sort of like pulling someone away from a hard drug, without all the nasty long-term effects. I would recommend you keep your distance. Tell him, you don't want to talk over the phone anymore, unless he's calling to make plans with you. Period.
My advice is based on a period in my life when I was addicted to a game called *Nethack*, for entire winter quarter in college. Everyone I knew thought I had left school and moved. One girl tried to pull me away from the keyboard physically and I totally lashed out at her.
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