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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:i have booked my wedding for next yr am in debt with my half of the deposits, we have 2 kids have been with each other for 4years lived together for 18mths he was abused as a child by a man,at the start it was great lots of love attention and affection. he is 10 yrs older than me. i am not blowing myself up but i am a very attractive woman i turn heads where ever i go when i am out i get lots of male attention that i dont what because i am totally head over heels in love with my fiance.i love him so much i never consider another man i am all his. anyway i caught him with an account with 2 online tranny porn site's. he had all these false details false name dob address etc.. he was paying so much a min for live web cam sex had alist of favourite trannies and i also found some of these trannies on his email contact list and others emailing him to add them to his list there real personal details. i am very open minded,i was shocked,hurt,disgusted felt cheated and discovered a secrect seedy side of him. but the thing that got to me is i tried to understand tried to talk to him but he wouldnt talk or explain just rail roaded it round to him being abused. i could see this as a couristy thing but i have been begging him for sex for 16 moths and he rejects me every time i mite get some if he is drunk which i do not like as i could go out any nite and get drunken sex if i was lokkin for it. there is no affection,emotion or love as i can see from him what should i do? i would alawys let him see the children anytime he wants i would never fight over them if i asked him to leave. i cant bring myself to chuck him out coz i love him and i want the children to grow up with mummy and daddy at home not just me. i suggested conselling he said he will never go. im so confused please help?
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reader, kellyxxx  +, writes (28 February 2009):
 He needs help and he needs to tie up loose ends about the abuse. He has a tranny porn problem and this is not appropriate as there are children in the home! He needs to sort this out so you could start by removing the computer or putting a password on it and supervising him. Yes, he has got to be treated like a child for a while but this problem has to be sorted and you need to be aaertive about it! If he doesn't get professional help then you need to take this upon yourslef! Its the easy way (prodfessional) or the hard way (your way) this may persuade him to see a counsellor. Give an ultimatum! Porn or me? X
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