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female
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30-35,
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writes:Okay here it goes... I'm in love with my best friend and I don't know what to do... So there's a rollerskating place near my home that all the kids and teens go to nowadays. One time I went about 2 months ago, my friend had brought her neighbor with her, and her neighbor brought her boyfriend. When I met this guy I had noooo idea how things would turn out as they are now. Long story short, I got to know him very well, and his girlfriend broke up with him not too long after that night at the skating place because she just lost interest. So now in present time, him and I are best friends and know eachother very well. We had gone back to the skating place with a group of friends (he was the only boy haha) and we had alot of fun. My girl friends teased us the whole time and got on my nerves, but im kind of happy they did because it made us closer. That night when I was saying goodbye to him my friends sat close to us and when he saw his mom pull up outside he put his skates down and came and hugged me tight. He said I Love you, and left right then. One of my friend's said that she was going to say "Kiss! Kiss! Kiss!" when we were hugging but I let go too soon. I called him later and told him that story with a joking laugh and he asked me seriously if I wouldve kissed him. I admitted yes and so did he. Right after, he admitted he liked me so everything was clear... and boyyyy do I like him :) It's summer for us and next school year i'll be going to high school but he is one year younger and will be staying in middle school. He told me that he wouldve asked me out a long time ago but we would be going to different schools. I told him we had the whole summer but he said we dont see eachother over the summer that much anyways.So now i'm stuck in this STUPID situation! We both like eachother, we both love eachother very much but we wont go out! Im not going to ask him out because if i do he'll just reject me and say the same reason why he wont ask me out. Next time we hang out I really want to get closer to him and just maybe get that kiss ive been dying for?...I dont think he'll reject the kiss because he said he wouldve anyways. I miss him alot and havent seen him in a while and he is the whole world to me. I am young but im mature enough to be able to notice if im just in a daze, but right now im not. He's everything I ever wanted in a guy and he wants to be with me but refuses because we'd have an unhealthy relationship.Should I just move on and find someone knew ( I dont think I can at this point...) or should I hold on to him and see if he changes his mind? Please help me!
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (21 June 2011):
 Well, this looks way to familiar. My son, (just out of 7th grade 13 years old), has attracted the attention of an older girl (just out of 8th grade starting High school next year).
I'm wondering if your guy is getting the same kind of advice I gave my son. I told him that over the summer you could be very interested in him. But as soon as you start high school with all of those older boys to grab your attention he will be as boring as yesterdays news to you. So I told him to hold on to his heart. I also advised him that he was way too young for an exclusive relationship. I told him that he should make it a rule to only meet you in groups of friends. That rule will help to protect him from situations that he (and probably you too) is not ready for.
So I've talked to you as if you were my son's friend, because, I believe that is what his mom would like you to hear.
As to whether you should hold on or move on, follow your heart, but keep your options open. You will know when you are ready to open up again.
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