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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:So I met a guy online (obviously not ideal) and we really hit it off. He lives in Iraq and I am in the US. I am a student and he is a dental technician there. We have been together 2 months and are very serious. We quickly became best friends and very romantic. We are desperately in love. I can't imagine life without him. We have plans to meet, marry, the whole thing. We skype everyday. The problem is, he can be very moody and angry. He has had a hard life and sometimes gets upset and wants to break up. Either because of a small thing I did that caught him on a bad day or he doesn't think he is good enough for me. I can't even describe how amazing he is and how compatible we are. But two days ago, we were just chatting on facebook and he asked why he can't see my friends list. I said I have it hidden and I can't see his either. Then he said he could see mine a while ago and I said I can make it public to him if he wants. Then he stopped replying and I asked if he was mad about something, he said "do i seem mad?". And he hasn't replied to anything since. He has done this before but he always comes around the next day. and this time he deleted me. I have texted him, (can't call ), emailed, I know he has read my messages on facebook. I can't do this. I literally am on the verge of tears all day. I don't know what to do. He won't even tell me what I did wrong:( Help!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2012): Oh its so sad. Well, honey some things are not meant to be. What you think you feel for him will also passed. it seems like you are very incompatible with each other. Plus the time, place, culture, is so different. how could you possibly make it work?
i honestly don't believe in LDR. It only works for people who are 100% committed to each other. It wont work if just one is committed and the other is not.
His behavior is making you crazy and unhappy, why would you still want to be with him? when its pretty clear that all he cares about is what he feels. The guy is selfish maybe he has a lot of excess baggage from his past or something.
Its your choice if you want to be martyr and go on with a very painful unhappy relationship with him. But if you want to be happy, you should stop contacting him. His not worth it. To be honest. I wonder why you waste our time with him.
Ok i understand, maybe its love. but love is not enough.
You have to learn how to let go. Because your hurting yourself, your best investment and asset is yourself. if you are unhappy, full of pain inside, you could never give love to others. Be happy, life is good, Good Luck..
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