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writes: I have been living with a man who is 24 years older. I'm 40. He is still married and won't get divorced because he doesn't want to upset her. I don't love him any more but would feel guilty if I left him.
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (19 April 2005):
 I think there must be a bit more to this situation than what you have said here. You are living with him but he is still married to someone else but he won't divorce her for fear of upsetting her? Why is that? They aren't sharing a life together after all. You are sharing his life with him not his wife. Perhaps his wife feels there would be a stigma attached to divorce? I don't know but you haven't said why you would feel guilty if you left him.If you want to live a full life and be truely happy, the only way you can do this is by getting out there and living it. You are still young. You could find a man who you love and who loves you in return and live a satisfying and happier lifestyle. Do you wish to ignore this chance because you feel guilty?Maybe you feel guilty because he is so much older than you and you may feel he won't find anyone else to share his life with. That may be true but it would mean you throwing your life away to make his happier.Only you can really make that choice.Good luck.
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