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writes:There is this guy, I'll call him sam, we really really like each other. We've met up loads, and we've kissed. I've asked him out but he doesn't know what he wants, every time he sees me he wants to be in a relationship with me, but he doesn't want the commitment. He's been telling me that he loves me and wants to do lots of things with me and to me. He doesn't want me for sex I'm sure of it :D, so that's not an issue. Plus I've told him I'm not sleeping with him unless we are together and he says the same. It's just that he keeps telling me how much he likes me and that he loves me and he wants to kiss me etc. but with him not knowing what he wants with me i.e. relationship, I'm not sure what to do, whether I should wait for him to decide... which could never happen, ask him out again, or just be friends with him or something else, any comments will be very grateful, thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, Blue_Angel0316  +, writes (12 January 2009):
 He does seem a bit WISHY_WASHY! It seems like he may like you alot but has real committment issues. The best thing to do is lean back and let him make the necessary moves to further the relationship. Nothing you have done up until this point has really worked for you. Now if he wants to be with you in a REAL RELATIONSHIP it's up to him to make it happen.
I know that it's your decision as to how long to wait but I do encourage you not to let too much time go by. If he can't make a clear decision, based on the lenght of time you two have been working on this, you may need to move forward a bit with your own life. Give him an appearence that you may still be available but that you aren't going to sit around waiting on him. Get out with your friends and have fun, always be nice to him, since you are already friends it is well deserved. Just DON'T put your life on HOLD in case he can't step up and COMMIT.
Take things one day at the time, don't push, let him be the one to PERSUE YOU! Usually backing off gives the other person a chance to miss you and realize how much they care. Sometimes it works out for the best to let them go, but alot of times they will realize they want you with them more than they want to be without you. Just do your own thing and be prepared in case he doesn't decide to commit to you. You at least will know that you can always be friends and no one knows what tomorrow brings. Only GOD knows that for sure!
I wish you the best and may all your dreams come true. ASK GOD TO LEAD, GUIDE and DIRECT you. With HIS help and intervention things can turn out fine either way!
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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