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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and i haven't been together very long and have already moved in together, and it looks as though i am pregnant too. I'm happy with him, i love him to pieces and he feels the same way about me too. He's nine years older than me but we're on about the same maturity level and it doesn't really effect anything between us, never been an issue. The only real issue i have is the fact we're completely broke, maybe expecting a baby, hes waay behind on bills and yet he still spends the money he does get on crap! He is not addicted to drugs, he does not depend on drugs but drugs have been a big part of his life for the past ten years and when he does get money a significant amount will go on them. He also buys stupid things like 30 quids worth of chocolate and 20 pound wigs, which are not a necessity and he never ends up using any of the crap he buys. We'll go into a pub for one drink and he'll end up buying seven. He doesn't know the boundaries with money at all. I've tried to help him out like he's adviced i do, and tell him when hes overstepping the limits but he doesnt listen and wastes money away regardless. I just dont know what to do to get him to listen to me. I feel bad because its his money and i cant just come into his life and tell him what to do with it. But he's told me to do that, and he does really need my help anyway!
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reader, britbrit  +, writes (24 May 2009):
 Okay, first you need to talk to him about you future and ask him if you guys had a child would he still be the same, RECKLESS SPENDING. It's irresponsible and just not smart AT ALL. Talk about how it effects you and how you want him to change... if he does not listen then, give him an altimatum to change.... think of something for him to chose between.best of luck** bRiTbRiT3
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