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female
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anonymous
writes:Hey people :) I just need a bit of help to not be so confused really :(I met a guy from Germany a year ago (im from the u.k). he had previously lived in the U.S.A for 5 years for University.I met him and things were casual at first, but then started to get VERY serious. He took me away for my birthday, told me he loved me more than anything and that he wanted to spend his life with me. Then after we had been together about 9 months, i found out that he was engaged to a girl in America. He was devestated at what he had done-he is genuinely a nice guy, although obviously what he has done is not nice!He promised many times that he would finish with her, but said it was very difficult as he had been with her for 5 years. He told her about me and she begged him to stay with her. Because i loved him so much i gave him so many chances. Then at christmas, we were supposed to be going skiiing with his family (or so he told me), but he went back to America to her. I was broken. I thought that wa sit, but he called me daily from there and sent me endless message ssaying he had made a huge mistake. I ignored him.When he came back to the UK a month later he came to see me and begged me to give him another chance, because he had realised how much he love me when he was with her. I said ok, but only if he proved to me it was ove with her. Again, he kept saying ;ill do it tomorrow, its so hard for me because i dont want to hurt her, but i know i want to be with u and love u more'. I have messaged the girl and told her the situation on several occassions but she just ignores me. I gave him a week to finish it and he said he couldnt do it-it was too hard so I said thats it!enough is enough!he was shocked and couldnt believe i could finish it so easily because he said we are 'meant to be together'. I just dont understand :( He still keeps texting me saying how much he misses me etc, he loves me and cant eb without me, but why would he chose to be with her who lives 3000 miles away, and why did he tell her about me in the first place?sometimes i think maybe he didnt love me, but then why would he call me EVERYDAY from the U.S when he was with her over christmas :( please help im so confused :( sorry for the long msg..but i really though he was the one x (and yes i do feel very bad for her too!)
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