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writes:I am 31 yrs old and i met a 32 yrs old online. So we started to talk back and forth for a couple of month. It was nothing much just friendly talk. When he had to go on a bussiness trip we decided to meet up because it was a neighbour country of where i live and i liked the sound of a getaway weekend. So the first day we met it was a bit awkward. A lot of silences. He did not ask many question back and acted kind of awkward. His humor was strange. He kept looking around and didnt engage much in conversation. At a point he mimicked a dove!? And kept saying sea bass in a weird voice when his food was approaching. Maybe he was bored? And through the night he didn't ask me many question and just looked around again? He kept shaking his leg and asked me if i think he is weird. I said no, because we are all unique and he might find me strange(I just wanted to be polite). We even had some wine at his place but he didn't try anything. The goodbye was awkward like he wanted to leave asap. The pat on the back and all. Despite that, we did see each other for 3 days. I slept in my hotel alone. He was thoughtful and asked about my feet when they hurt and if im cold. Watch out for cars and paid for everything. And even agreed to meet again? I asked him to meet just to test him really. We did see many places and it was fun because ingnored his awkwardness and quietness. He has a lot of friends though. Does he only act this way with me? Did he feel sorry me because i travelled to see him? He didnt have to come out though. I would be fine alone. He did say it was nice to meet me. Maybe im too polite for him. He did tell me to relax and he was just teasing me at the beginning. But i did not find it funny? He lives very far away so we both know it wont be a relationship? He said its hard to date for him because he travels so much. He took care of me as much as he could I think. But wasnt attracted to me? Maybe because I was too distant? None of us flirted. Maybe he was just being respectful? Im a bit confused of what happened. What do you think? He is very handsome by the way. Maybe he is used to girls hitting on him but I didnt? What does he want? Where those pity dates?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (21 June 2016):
 My guess is that the both of you where just not suited, it does not mean that it was your fault or his, just that the both of you did not match in person. But that is okay, sometimes that happens when it comes to online dating. Try not to feel bad about it, sometimes these things do not work out, he may have found you quiet and you may have found him strange, that's okay.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (20 June 2016):
 I think the last date you had was his first move. He might follow the 3 day rule to contact you again and he wasn't sure if you liked him enough. It seems like he's handsome enough that you could get over his shyness and quietness. It takes two people to make conversations so I wondered why you waited for him to initiate a topic? You could have asked him what he's looking for and his life goals in the next five years. Surely if he's always travelling then he wouldn't be ready to settle down. Unless he makes tons of money and is content that his future wife stays home. Being handsome doesn't always mean the person is confident. Yes, many girls can hit on him but if he has to rely on a dating site to find a date it, means he doesn't go out a lot. The first date is just to determine if you want to see him again. Usually at the end of the date, you conclude it with a yes or no. I think he's afraid of rejection so he would rather leave it up to you to decide. He's not a conversationalist and he doesn't have good game. The advantage is that he won't be fooling around with women because he respects them too much. But if you want someone to talk and talk, then he's not that kind of person. Sitting down dinners at a grand restaurant would be uncomfortable. Dates with him should be filled with activities, then when you are hungry you just grab and go at those food trucks. You can plan your second date and what you want to do. Just skip that boring long dinner.
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