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writes:When i was fourteen i had a massive crush on this boy from the first time i met him, One day i found out he moved in by me and i was so excited. He was my first crush, first kiss, basically he is my first love. We hung out all the time and things were going really good... we went out, but then we didnt talk very much (he was my 1st b/f) so we broke up after a week, but we still liked each other so we hung out, then we took each others virginity's. I was 14 and he was 15... We have really strong feelings for each other but i feel like mine are stronger... I think about him everyday (and now even more since i moved AWAY from him, we used to be practically next door neighbors) and I have tried to move on but all i think about is him... and i can't tell anyone about it because i have trust issues and i dont want to get hurt anymore. He always talks to other girls and i dont show that i am jealous because i know he doesnt like it. But whenever i talk to other guys i feel bad because i know it hurts him... I havent had a boyfriend since him... and that was 3 years ago. ANYWAYS he took this other girls virginity but he tried to lie to me about it.. and he always told me he could trust me.. but now i dont feel comfortable having sex with him or talking to him about things i used to talk about with him because he lied to me and now i feel like i cant trust him.. plus i was supposed to be the only girl to experience him for theyre first time and he just gave it away to some other girl and that really hurts me.. i feel like i need to let him go but its really hard because i dont want to hurt him like he hurt me and i dont want to get hurt like this by anyone else.. I always start fights with him to see if he really is sorry for what he did but when i say things like "oh you dont even care about how i feel" he always says things like "oh ok if thats how you feel" and it makes me think he doesnt feel the same anymore.. and i dont know how to act around him anymore? when we see each other its silence, should I not talk to him.. or should i be nice? i want him out of my life but everytime i dont talk to him for awhile it seems like i get depressed. everyone tells me i need to get over him but i really dont know how? i dont understand why i love him still when he talks to other girls and lies to me and plays me... i just dont want anyone else to have him because he was mine before they even knew him. please try to help me because no one else can and im going insane
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey guys its me, thank you so much.. i went back and made some mistakes but in thee end i got hurt again so i finally realized it's time to let him go, he is in college now and he has a new girlfriend [three weeks after we had sex on new years eve] and i think that was a really lame move for him to make, i told him i can't trust him anymore and i told him not to talk to me anymore because he has hurt me too much. i still think about him everyday and i still get sad sometimes but over all im a happier person because i know that letting him go was the right choice, you shouldnt love someone so much and get nothing in return.... im happy that im not afraid to fall for anyone else now all of my fear is gone now because i learned that everyone gets hurt sometimes and its better to jus pick yourself up and move on instead of wasting time [years] being sad about something [a memory of a love that is no longer there]... plus i know that one day he will try to come back to me but this time i will be smarter and even though we are each others first loves he will have to realize that he made a mistake and that he made me how i am lol but anyways thanks a lot guys :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2009): I was in a similar situation his parents and my parents are best friends and i am constantly gettin reminders of him i love him so much an dit's been 3yrs since we broke up and i am torn apart because I Know he has moved on!!I would say to try and do the thing u enjoy most more often and try to keep busy so it will take ur mind off things it wont be easy but we will get there in the end
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reader, yanza  +, writes (8 June 2009):
 im in the exact same situation right now. it is really hard when you feel so strongly about another person and you dont think they feel the same way or at least not as strongly as you do.the only advice i can give you is to TRY and move on. you can still be friends but limit where that friendship goes which means no more sex and mayb limiting the convostation to only the basics. you two should still be close but you should keep your personal life away from him. he knows exactly how you feel and he wants to just keep you hanging. please dont be that girl. show him that you can move on and that you dont need him as much as he thinks.i hope this helped and good luck = }
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