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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I am a 22 year old college student, I have had a huge crush on a guy for 2 years now and have never had the courage to talk to this guy, I'll call him "Benjamin". He is a wonderful, sweet, funny, GREAT looking guy. He is honestly perfect in every way. The first time he spoke to me he called me Miss! I've never met a man who was so polite and I instantly fell in love with him, I can say it was love at first sight without a doubt.I'm around him a lot due to where I work. I am the camera girl for the football team so I see him everyday and I know his personality very well, which fits so perfectly with mine..haha. Anyway, 2 years ago I attempted to ask him to a movie through Facebook and he didnt give me a yes but he didn't give me a no either and he gave me his number but I lost it and didn't ask for it since. That was 2 years ago also and from then on I admired him secretly because I didn't think he was interested and honestly I felt like I wasn't his type, I still do.But recently we were at a party and he left early, not having his number I messaged him on Facebook asking why he left, not really expecting him to reply. About 2 hours later he replied and said he was with friends and asked how the night went, the convo went back and forth and suddenly he asks in a sexual way if I like filming and basically says I should head over to his house. Of course, I'm freaking out because this can't be true and it honestly didn't sound like him and I was wondering if it was a prank by his friends or roommate. So, I ask him if it's really him and he says yes, this is how he is when he's drunk and it proceeds from there but I'm still not convinced and take awhile to respond and in that time he says, nevernind that was rude I'm sorry, night. End of conversation.I didn't see him the next day and I didn't reply because I asked all my friends and they said go for it, just talk to him in person. I didn't get the chance to speak to him so I messaged him because I was at a point where I just needed to no if there was something between us. I ask what was up with the messages and he replies what messages. I tell him the ones from Saturday and to look. He says hell take a look and doesn't respond for a whole day. Here I'm thinking wow he really isn't interested, he doesn't even bother to reply, but the next day he finally replies and says woah I'm really sorry that was inappropriate. That tells me he really isn't interested and he's embarrassed but a lot of my guy friends say don't give up because it wasn't a no, but im more confused than ever...I never replied and saw him the next few days at practice and he was his ordinary polite and goofy self around me. What do I do? What does this mean? 2 years of admiring Benjamin from a afar and I finally make some progress and I fall on my ass and I'm even more scared and feel like I'm not good enough. Is he really not interested even though he's never given me a blatant no? Should I try one last time and how the hell should I go about it? I could really use a guys opinion, this is only a part of the story, but from his reactions and portrayal would you say he's possibly interested and just shy or something? I'm at a point where I just need to no if I have a chance with this man, it scares me to think of being rejected because I've liked him for so long but there's always that what if..help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2012): Well give him a chance to take action, thats your best shot. Give him little hints all week then like say thursday ask him if he has plans tomorrow or saturday. You can also just simply ask him to hangout, kid that you wont bite if he seems hesitant. Plenty of ways to go about it but youll feel better once you get it out and over with.
I wouldnt be sold on that drunk night though, some guys let the truth out when drunk and some will just sleep with who ever and some passout before they get the chance for anything, drunk people are unrealiable.
We can say are opinions all we want about his interest, but only he truly knows whats up. You have to find out for yourself and even if he isnt interested now, if you show interest that can make him interested.
Hope that helps
Oh last thing if plans are made and get cancelled by him dont get down and out right away.
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