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writes:I have been with my guy for almost a year. I love him very much but we argue so often, mainly due to my lifestyle. I am a student and really want to spend my time with my mates doing work or at my job. He has a full time job with sporadic hours and has never been to university so I guess just doesn't understand the hours, night-time job and social aspects. Part of me really wants to stay with him and whenever we argue it doesn't take long to calm him down because he loves me too and wants to stay. However I dont know if it is unfair of me to keep him in a relationship where I can't give him what he needs, he's a few years older and wants to settle down soon, where as I just want to go crazy for a bit. It's all very difficult as I love him so much and don't want to hurt either of us, but we both are! Please help me with any comments, am I being unreasonable? Or will this never work?Thank you
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (4 November 2008):
I think you need to sit down and have a calm serious talk.
He may be in a position where he is ready to settle down in a nice area and stay in... where as you want to go and work long hours in a shoebox in a city centre to get a cool job and go out all the time and go travelling.
You need to make it clear that this is where you are in your life right now. Find out what he wants in a relationship and if he wants something more serious and long term then you may have to just keep seeing each other but accept that it won;t be long term and he may find someone to marry and settle with instead of you.
Good Luck!! xx
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