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writes:I've been going out with a guy for a few days and we've both been happier than we can remember. I really, really like him, and he tells me I'm beautiful and does everything right. I've fallen hard. The thing is, he wants to keep our relationship sercret, which means I can't kiss him in public, hold his hand and we can only hug briefly. I feel almost scared to approach him. In private it's amazing. We fool around on the couch (I know I'm young but at least we haven't slept together) and make out and I love it. I don't want to lose him, but I want everyone else to know how unbelievably happy I am! Any advice? From a love-sick teen Reply to this Question
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (12 March 2011):
 When you asked him about why he wanted to keep the relationship a secret what did he say? At least I hope you would ask him that question.
Little lecture: You're underage the age of legal consent(which goes for fooling around, oral sex, any kind of sex etc.). The legal age is 16, in case you weren't aware.
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reader, MamaBear +, writes (11 March 2011):
Yep, I have some advice. Back off! There is some reason your newfound interest wants to keep it a secret. Possibly his friends will tease him. Maybe he feels he is too young to be involved so seriously. Maybe his parents object. Maybe his studies are not up to par and he needs the time for this vs. a new girl friend. He may be self-conscious about making out on the couch. Lack of money. It could be any number of reasons - but whatever his reasoning, respect it. Maybe he will eventually tell you. I suggest not pushing it - or you may push him right out of the picture. I have never understood why young girls can be so possessive.
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