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writes: My guy wants to go to a strip club, knowing full well I'm against it COMPLETELY. When he told me (in front of another religious friend) you can imagine I wasn't too pleased. I think told him what I thought. He then became the one in power and was going on about how it's not a big deal etc etc and started making out I had done wrong. He knows how deadset against these things I am, so why is he acting up? Reply to this Question
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reader, Dilly +, writes (13 April 2006):
This is not a pleasant situation for you to be in but you truly have nothing to worry about. You can't ban him from going just because you disapprove, nor would you want hom to stop doing something you liked just because he didnt want you to go. If it becomes a habit, fair enough, but a rare occurence should not make it a problem.
My boyfriend has gone to a local one every now and then when its a night out with the boys. It used to worry me but he took me the other week with a friend of his and his girlfriend and it was so not what I expected. He even paid for us both to have a lap dance and it was no way as bad as what I had imagined so if he said he wanted to go again, this time I would laugh it off and say go fill your boots.
I know its hard when its something you disapprove off but by trying to stop him going, will just get his back up and make him want to go even more. Say you dont agree with it but you hope he has a good time anyway. Then forget it and enjoy a night with your friends when he is there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2006): I don't think you should worry about it. I think all guys want to and end up going to those atleast once. But I understand your position too. Just think of it like this: Even if he sees a gorgeous girl naked, he's not going to leave you. He can't date one of those girls and a lot of guys I know think that those girls are only good to look at and would never even consider dating them! So don't worry. Your guy is with YOU so don't be self-conscious about him. Let ur guy go, becuz the more you tell some1 no the more they want to do it.
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reader, Clarey  +, writes (12 April 2006):
 Perhaps he is trying to challenge you on purpose. I find it a bit cringey as a thought, imagining my bloke drooling over someone else technicolour naked....yuk. Men don't understand how it makes a woman feel because most women don't go to see male strippers or try looking at naughty magazines with men in who are rather better equipped than their boyfriends. I tried it once and my boyfriend said it made him feel inferior. There is a smug attitude among blokes that it is like sweeties for the boys and means nothing. When the tables turn it is most interesting. Perhaps you should! Sorry it is just a naughty thought. Anyway,I think I would laugh about it too and offer him a dirty mac to wear when he goes! Then go out with your friends and have a great time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2006): Hi...your not in the wrong and niether is your b/f you've just both have different opinions. to be honest i wouldn't get yourself worked up about it because it really isn't a big deal, i mean how is it? He'll be goin there to have a good time with his mates and it isn't like he's goin to cheat on you, simply because your not aloud to touch. I mentioned goin to one with my mates to my g/f n she just thought its was funny, theres nothin serious about it and i wouldn't worry about it....why are you so dead against him going?
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