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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now. i am 20 and he is 22. we have a very good relationship, we enjoy each others company and make each other very happy. however there is one problem...at the end of this year he is thinking of going away with his sister skiing in france for 6 months. its not just something hes suddenly thought up without considering me, before i met him, he'd done this twice before alone, and i always knew he wanted to spend another 6months out there at some point, i just guess i have been so in love i didnt think about how it would feel, but now things are becoming more definate im getting so worried.so many factors are upsetting me, 6 months is a hell of a long time to be apart from someone you love and usually see everyday, i know i could visit once or twice but i hope you understand although this would be good,saying goodbye again would be so painful. also, my ex boyfriend and i went travelling seperately a couple of years back, we decided to stay together and i trusted him completely, stupid of me really as he met another girl and slept with her many times. i obviously split up with him straight away, and although i know my boyfriend is a different person and i shouldnt judge the situation by my ex's actions, its so hard to not worry.my boyfriend knows i have trust issues, but this situation is so familiar, im so scared of getting hurt and him finding someone else out there.some people say i should go with him, but i couldnt, firstly i wouldnt want to live in france for 6 months and i wouldnt have the money anyway.my boyfriend seems to think we'll be fine, staying together and getting through it, i just think its a lot for him to ask of me.i do love him and id love this to work, but worrying about it 4 months before its even happened is really stressing me out and its actually making me ill. ive always had emotional and nervous issues, and this is a huge strain on my health. i dont know what to do?please help x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2009): listen sweety, you need to trust him and not worry about it. Let go of your past issues as they seem to be dragging you down. You might be thinking to yourself, "easy for you to say" but i must tell you that im in a relationship where my boyfriend goes away to work for 6months and is home for 2months and then off again for another 6. If you add up all the days, iv only seen him for two years out of five years together. When he is away why dont you plan to do something for yourself, like a new hobbie, or spend more time with friends and family. It might be a good thing and when he comes back you will fall in love all over again and being away from each other will just make you so much stronger!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2009): You said this yesterday. You didn't offer a followup or anything. were we not helpful?
I tried very hard... posted a very long message.
~SY.
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (12 June 2009):
 You've already posted this once, why do it again?
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