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*unaazul
writes:i dated a guy twice two weeks ago. when he called me for our third date, i reminded him that i was not comfortable dating a man who was dating other women at the same time, he didn't say anything at all at that time but later on the same day of our third date he cancelled it. one week after, he called me to say that "he wanted to date other girls too and also continue dating me because he liked me". i was reluctant to accept at first but then i did. now he tells me he can't go out with me after two weeks, and that would make a month without seeing each other at all, and he isn't calling me either. i don't know what to do. please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2008): salam.I am doing the same thing to my boyfriend..actually before he was my best friend.i could tell him anything,and discuss everything under Milky Way...ha-ha!! I accepted his purposal only because I was afraid of losing my coolest and da best frend.....but at the same time,even if he has asked me many times to stop chating with other guys....I can't can't do it....I just can't..coz,I still think that I might find someone better...someone whom i will really LOVE :) so,I advise you to wait,time is the key here....but don't forget him,keep in touch,you can get a chance!!!
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reader, MissWendlemoot  +, writes (24 April 2008):
 You've only had a few dates. How could either of you know that you only want to be with each other after so short of a time? i think it is normal for both to keep dating others until they decide on exclusivity with one person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2008): Why waste your time on a guy like this?! I suspect he's trying to date as many women in a short period of time, to, bluntly, choose the one he likes best and wants to stay with. Very few men are like this. So why waste yourself on one?! You deserve a man that's interested in YOU, and not just girls in general. This is cheating on you. And to be honest, he's just using you. He doesn't like you as a person, he likes you because you're a girl. This is the type of person that would get names such as man-whore. Why date him?! Please, ask yourself these questions. My advice to you is please please don't stay with this man. Well, he's more of a boy than a man. You're worth more than he is giving you, so stop all this rubbish and show him you are NOT a cheap slut that anyone can get their hands on. Good luck!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (24 April 2008):
 He is dating other girls because he wants to find out which
girl is more suitable to be his long term partner.
He has not make up his mind yet .
He could also be suffering from 'Attention Deficit Syndrome.'
You are like those gifts on the shelf and he wants to sample
them before buying and taking it home.
Who will win in this beauty contest?
If he does not call you again , then you would know where you stand with him.
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reader, duskyrowe  +, writes (23 April 2008):
 Ditch him I find a guy who only wants you.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (23 April 2008):
This guy likes dating, he's having fun and seeing girls and having a great time. So are the girls he sees because he's told them straight up that he just wants to date and have fun.
You are looking for one guy to be with and have commitment.
He's been very honest - but has basically made his position clear: he likes you but isn't looking for a girlfriend right now.
Stop seeing him and tell him to give you a call if he ever wants to get serious.
Then go off and find a guy who wants the same things you do. In a few years this guy may decide he wants to settle down and may think of you, then again he may not.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Susan Strict +, writes (23 April 2008):
 The chances are that he's not really interested in you at all - at least, not as becoming his long-term partner.
Having said that, some men simply don't know what they want. If he is one of those, then waiting until he has sorted himself out may be worth the wait, but it's a situation that most reasonable women won't tolerate and there's no reason you should have to wait for him unless you are absolutely certain he is something special to you and you are prepared to run the real risk that he will settle with someone else.
If it was me, I would be starting to look for someone else.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (23 April 2008):
 Hi
Is he interested in you? No. If he was, he wouldn't want to date other girls at the same time and would want to concentrate on getting to know you first. Then if it didn't work out, go on to date others.He sounds like he needs a lot of female attention, not just one.
C xxxx
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (23 April 2008):
 Give up honey!! he is a loser. You dont have to settle for a man that is still playing the field.
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (23 April 2008):
Why settle for someone who is not available and who plays to the gallery?
Just enjoy your single hood and abide your time and wait for a whole man who will give you all his attentions.
Forget him and move on.
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