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writes:I've been dating a guy for about 3 months. I see him almost every day and spend the night almost every night....he cooks meals for me, takes care of me when I'm sick, tells me I'm beautiful...basically acts like the perfect boyfriend. But, he refuses to acknowledge that we're going out...it's like he's trying to keep his distance, but always wants to be with me. He doesn't want to introduce me to his family or friends or to meet my friends because then it would be an announcement to them that we're dating. It's really confusing me, especially because my last boyfriend was exactly the opposite; perfectly willing to acknowledge our relationship, but unwilling to spend much time with me. What's going on? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2010): He's either holding out for an ex, still not over his ex, or afraid of being hurt.
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reader, xanthic +, writes (5 December 2010):
 He doesn't consider it a serious relationship. Have you had a discussion about being exclusive yet? If not, his reluctance to acknowledge you as his girlfriend means he either doesn't see this as something serious and long-term, or he doesn't want to appear as 'taken' to other women.
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (5 December 2010):
 In three months he should want to share you with at least his close circle of friends or his family and he should want to meet the people who are important in your life.
Only he can tell you what is going on but I suspect he is keeping his options open at this time and doesn't want to show the world that the two of you are together.
In a calm and gentle way, let him know that you are curious about this and tell him that it bothers you, if it does.
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