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writes:me and my boyfriend split up a month ago, recently we have been meeting up with our friends and just hanging out. 2 weeks ofter we broke up he got together with one of his mates (they have been together 2 weeks now) last week, i was round my friend *andys house, and my ex came round. we were really flirting, wrestling and just basically acting like nothing had happend. we met up a few other times, and the flirting has been getting more and more serious. he met up with my friend *laurance and took his new gf. while his new gf was in the loo, *paul told him he had made a mistake dumping me. i met him last night and *paul told me he still wants to be with me and would do anything to be with me, but doesnt want to hurt his new gf because they have been friends for a long time. he also said their relationship os weird. so i dont know where i stand, will he break up with her and come back to me or what. i still love him so much and would do anything humanly possible to be with him.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (3 March 2007):
 The ball lies in his court here. It's up to him to let his girlfriend down gently. He should let her know that as much as he likes her, he doesn't think their relationship is working and thinks it would be best just to remain friends rather than continue and lead her on. In the meantime YOU need to stay on the backburner. Don't make yourself so available to him, let him miss you and ask where you've been. If he texts you then let him know you think it best to keep a low profile until the girlfriend is out of the picture. Tell him although you'd like to get back with him, you don't think it's fair that he leads her on thinking he still wants to be with her.
Tell him to call you once she's out of the picture. If he really DOES want to get back with you then he'll miss you and break up with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2007): Listen. What he has already done is bad; he is flirting and keeping feelings for you alive which is dishonourable and cheating.
He already hurt her and he has hurt you. Could you trust him after this? Is this how he is when he dates someone? Does he continually cross boundaries of respect, love, consideration when he is dating someone?
You don't stand anywhere as he has said that his new GF and her feelings matter which is a lie to be honest but still...that he can say those words; you are just some fun.
I say you need to respect yourself and stay away from him until he can make a decision. This way he can be honest and have some dignity as well as leave you with yours.
Best Wishes.
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