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writes:I was seeing this guy for about 7 months...after going away on vacation for about a couple of weeks, he became distant and a bit withdrawn. I should also mention that there is a 7-year age difference between us. I am 24 and he is 31. I brought up the issue to him, asking if he was happy and whether or not he wanted to stop seeing each other. He answered honestly saying a lot of stuff...how he just feels like he wants to be single and not be attached and how he just wants to think about himself. How on the weekend he doesn't want to think about planning things. He basically said that he thinks it's best if for now we try to be friends. He said he enjoys his time together with me and doesn't want to lose touch. I found all of this to be rather insulting to be honest... As well, he mentioned our age difference being an issue. I am going back to school in the fall to do my MBA and I suppose he feels like he is getting quite old and does not want to enter into an exclusive relationship with anyone he doesn't see himself possibly settling down with. Apparently, my age and the fact that I will back in school soon makes him feel unsure about our future. Although I don't see it as big of an issue, he somehow said he doesn't know how to feel about me being in school while he is in the working world. He is also currently in the midst of trying to change his career path and I guess that was another reason for our break-up...he feels like things are changing a lot for him too. I am not sure what to do...I really care for him and this is hurting me a lot. I am focusing now on giving him space and moving on...but deep down inside, I wish that he will come back to me. Is there anything I can do to help change his mind? Reply to this Question
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (25 April 2010):
 He has already decided and once he has decided on it , it is time to move on and close this chapter in your life. Focus on your life.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (25 April 2010):
He wont' come back. He's a man who works his way through women, dates them for a while and then decides that he doesn't want to settle. He's 31, so he should have a clearer idea about what he wants, which suggests all he wants is sex. You need to let him go, because he's just never going to commit at all.
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reader, Brunel  +, writes (25 April 2010):
No! No! and No! again. Move on and get rid it is clear to me that whatever there was has gone. Anyway there is busy time ahead for you make the most of your between now and school.
It may be better to keep clear of relationships as you will be bound to meet someone there with whom you will have a mutual interest
Try not to hurt for too long and get yoursekf out and about. He is trying to let you gently, finish it all for good otherwise he will maybe want you back in a couple of weeks and the same thing will happen again?
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