Husband wants sex without tending to my needs...?!

A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

This story is so long, but basically the short of it is this: My husband and I have 3 kids, the youngest is 6 months old and co-sleeps. Whenever my husband wants to "get off" he has no problem getting the baby to sleep and in his own bed, but if it is me that wants any physical intimacy he makes it his mission to assure the baby "accidentally" wakes up so I am left with it until he is snoring. Before I was pregnant with the 3rd sex was daily or more. Now it's barely monthly, if you count him waiting until my period to beg for a hand-job or oral sex (so he feels obligated to satisfy me). I have done my 'homework', he's not cheating. It's not a 'drive' issues because he masturbates daily (sometimes more). It's just been since the very day we found out I was pregnant. We always joked about not getting married because sex end but last year we went ahead and finally married and since then it got even worse, almost as if he thought marriage was the way out. Can he really be this much of a self-fish all-about-me person in bed to the extent he would rather masturbate than have to bother with my satisfaction or have I missed something? Yes, I have talked to him, he either gets angry or "punishes" me by going even longer without. What's worse is everyday he makes comments and references to what we're going to do when the kids go to bed, then nothing but snoring....not sure exactly what my question is, hopefully you can offer any response that helps!

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