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female
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writes:Please someone help me. I have been living with my boyfriend of 7 months and ever since we moved in together things have gone down hill. I mean we do have good times but there are times when he gets so mad that all he mentions is us breaking up. Well he recently said that when our lease ends he doesnt want to live with me anymore and he says that all he needs is his computer and his computer games and he will be fine. There are also times when he just holds me so tight and whispers he loves me so much. I am so confused. If he loves me so much then why is he hurting my feelings and why doesnt he want to continue living with me. please someone tell me what I should do or say to him. I love him so much and I really want this to work, and I think he does too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2007): Holy emotional roller coaster ride of a self serving man. Been there, done that and let me tell you Chica...get out. His behaviour will only worsen and inversely your self worth and self esteem will erode as his mental and emotional abuse will take a heavy toll on you.
The flip flopping back and forth, the walking on egg shells and leaving you feel unbalanced and confused-second guessing is what CONTROLLING, ABUSIVE like to do to their victims.
Get out FAST.
I know it seems like love, because you turn a blind eye to his many shortcomings because you WANT to be loved and ACCEPTED and VALIDATED - to win his love as it will be a greater victory and with it, right all past wrongs.
Counselling Sweetie and get strong and wise, love yourself FIRST.
*hugs*
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