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writes:My boyfriend and I moved in together and lived together for almost a year. Things got rocky and we broke up. Now we are living in opposite sides of the state and we have been talking a lot. Our communication has really improved and we have discovered (and fixed) a lot of the problems in our relationship with the help of a marriage counselor. Now, he wants to be back together and expects me to move AGAIN, for him. He cant move for me since he is doing graduate school. I don't want to move again since I already did for him. Question is, do I move again (against my desires), or should I not move and not be with him for the 2 years he will be in school?
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reader, sarcy24  +, writes (28 April 2008):
 Hi there,
My mother moved for my fathers job 17 times which meant I went to 14 different schools when I was growing up. Oh how I hated it. As you have moved for him before, I personally would not move again. 2 years is nothing in the grand scheme of things and it will keep your relationship hot and spicy not being with him all the time and allow your ability to communicate with each other deeply grow and grow. I would explain to him that he knows you moved before but don't really want to this time as you now feel settled etc etc. I don't think someone who really loved you would put you through this again. He will be busy with school and studying anyway so should have his time fully taken up with this. It will make looking forward to seeing each other even more special.
Really good luck, all the best! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2008): Go with your gut feeling, if you both love each other then you will be together at the end of school in two years time. If you dont think you can wait and dont want the move then stay put. It is your life too, so you decide and dont have the decision pushed on you because that is what HE wants, us girls have a say too.
take care and let me know what you decide.
sxx
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