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writes:My Boyfriend always likes me to be on top when we have sex, but I honestly can't do it!His penis keeps coming out and I can't keep control and rhythm at all. I've tried it a few times and I just can't do it. I hope this question gets posted on here, I have tried not to make it really graphic.It's so embarrasing, I just end up stopping because he dosen't look like he's enjoying it and it really drains my confidence. Why can other women do it, but not me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2006): Try grinding him. That feels great for everyone - moreso for the woman. Let him penetrate you while you're on top, your legs should be on either side of him, knees on the bed. Have him place hands on either side of your hips and ask him to move you back and forth. When you are reaching an orgasm, have him move you back and forth harder and faster. Mmm... Yes, that is good. It will feel like his penis is inside of you, touching everything - that is if his penis is just the right size. This is great for multiple orgasms for the female. That is, if it works... 8]
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2006): have him sit up a little and get on top of him, lean slightly back with you hands touching the bed holding you up and move slowly up and down. this helps me. he needs to be fully erect so that when you go up and down it will remain still and not keep on coming out. it would be aiming straight into you you when you're going up and down. (trying not to sound so graphic)or instead of going up and down you could also just sit on him and slow grind back and forth. tell him to raise his pelvic area a little. that helps lots also. try to keep it on a pace. start slow and when he feels or you feel (which ever comes first) that you are about to climax then you move faster! i hope this helps.
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (24 May 2006):
 Maybe try facing the other way... this can add to the excitement as well, you may be trying too hard, relax a bit and take it slow. If you face the other way, your not so inclined to be looking at what face he is pulling and believe me he will like the view! It can take a while to master girl on top, but if he was to move also this can help, try to move at the same time, or simple ask him to raise his pelvic area, you dont have to straight away jump in there and be rampant, take it slow and gradually increase as and when you feel ready. You will know what works best, and remember we get better at something the more we try ;o)
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reader, Raven +, writes (24 May 2006):
 ask him to help you...to tell you the truth i cant do it eather..so your not alone..ask him to help you with your rythem..if it dont work the first time dont give up..keep trying you'll get it sooner or later and when you do whatch out you might become a freak..lol
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reader, hannieseds  +, writes (24 May 2006):
 Hi there,
If his penis keeps coming out then maybe you are leaning too far back. Try bending over more i.e. so your face is by his (this way he can kiss your nipples at the same time!!) and instead of trying to 'bop up and down' try and just slowly move your hips back and forth, and side to side. Hope this helps! xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2006): Its not a cake walk for anyone who hasn't done it very much. I suggest focusing on just lifting your bottom. If you put your arms up by his head and just move your tush then it should work for you. Don't try to go to fast, that could be your problem, my suggestion is to ask your man. he knows what he likes. GOOD LUCK!
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reader, shania +, writes (24 May 2006):
 It sounds to me like he isn't fully,sexually aroused,thats why his penis keeps coming out.To have sexual intercourse,your boyfriends penis has to be rock hard...so foreplay is crucial.You are not doing anything wrong...just need a bit of practise.Try different positions with plenty of kissing and caressing....that way,once you two are fully turned on then getting on top and riding him should be no trouble.Good luck.
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