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writes:Hello,Boys and girls, I need your help, I have been in long term relationships before, and they ended. I think I am partly responsible, because I lack confidence in myself sometimes.Here it is, my boyfriend and I have been together for about 8 months now. When we started dating, he stipulated that he did not want to be in a serious relationship, but we got closer and closer, and we got serious. He keeps on coming over at my house, about 5- 6 days a week, and we don't do much because he gets lazy on the weekend and he is not the time who truely enjoys restaurants and stuff like that. The routine really kicked in and now he told me "HE NEEDS SPACE". But he is the one always coming over.. He told me twice, and it made me panick and I cried. Does he want to break up? He says no, but what does it mean? I think that instead of giving him his space, it is making me panick.¸What does it mean, does he want other girls? What do i do, or not do?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (9 April 2009):
Well if he wants to come over and sit about being boring, eating your food and having sex with you but not much else then I'm sorry to say it sounds like he may be using you.
As Zarathustra says, men are very capable of just taking what is on offer.
Tell him that you don't want him to come round any more and when he wants to see you he can call and take you on a date. If he is using you then he won't bother, or he'll make up some excuse.
Try and move on from this as I really don't think it's a good relationship to be in.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, what?!? +, writes (6 April 2009):
what?!? is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your reply. He is the one most of the time who calls and ask me to come over, hang out with me and my friends, and I am the one who wants to do things instead of staying home. He is not the kind of guy who likes to do things, that's why I am so confused! lol
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (6 April 2009):
He maybe coming over but does he literally just turn up?
Do you ring and ask him to come over? Do you hint that you'd like him to come over?
I think you just need to leave him for a while and stop panicking. It doesn't help so just give yourself a slap and calm down.
Tell him that you want to go on a date next weekend. He can organise it all and give you a call with the details.
Then just say you'll see him then and don't talk to him till he calls you.
He probably doesn't want anyone else. He just wants to not feel like a married old man and actually do things rather than hang out and do nothing at yours in pyjamas.
Good Luck!! xx
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