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writes:The guy I am seeing has asked me to do a threesome with me. I am not into it and have said no. I mean I know it is suppose to be every guys fantasy, but, I just wondered how many other girls have been asked to do them by guys they are seeing? What did they do? How did it work out?
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reader, lonelyjess  +, writes (24 July 2008):
 I tried it, it was the worst choice i have ever made in my life. The condom came off in the other girl involved so we were all scared.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2008): I had numerous threesomes in college with two male friends of mine and it was a lot of fun at the time. That situation worked out because it was strictly about sex and jealousy did not come into play. There was no relationship to risk. When you bring a boyfriend or spouse into the situation, it becomes a whole new ballgame.
The fact that you are hesitant, says you probably aren't willing to see your boyfriend with another partner. Threesomes, more often than not, are relationship killers. Someone will inevitably get jealous or feelings will get hurt. Trust can become an issue afterwards. Stick to your guns on this one.
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reader, no_issues +, writes (1 July 2008):
 Porn teaches us that both men and women are ready and eager for threesomes, and more, at any time of day, under virtually any circumstances as long as they are well lit, and with nearly anyone else including passers-by.
Of course, porn also teaches us that secretaries have nothing to do all day but have sex on their desks, and men all have 12 inch penises. I have reason to believe that these things may not be universally true, so in this respect porn wisdom may be inadequate.
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reader, lexilou +, writes (30 June 2008):
 I personally find them overrated.
I have also found from experience its not something that you do in a loving commited relationship. Could you bear to see someone you love shagging another woman. I couldnt, so how can a man who says he loves you watch you with another man.
If its a one off experiment then go for it but if he expects more and more how will you feel then.
My sister dated a guy who I instantly disliked, he was a smarmy slimy so and so. He began by asking her for threesomes, two blokes or two women he wasnt fussy. It ended with him taking her on swinging weekends and it really messed her up and she became suicidal, he didnt want a loving relationship at all, he was still married but needed a women to take on these weekends with him.
So think carefully and only ever do anything you are truly comfy with x
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2008): Nope, but I did bring it up one time. The guy thought about it seriously and just said no. He didn't like the idea of sharing. Don't know why I asked anyway cause I don't think I could do such a thing. Just say no, and that's the end of that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes, he is a porn freak. He is constantly showing me videos and sending me naked pics of himself. I don't mind that, it can give you ideas as well. Anyway, most guys have their porn stash, no point trying to pretend guys don't have one.
I have told him their is always one person that gets left out or you like fucking more than the other. He said it is not a competition thing. I have also explained to him I am not a lesbian.
I might bring up the two guys thing not that I want to do that as I don't just to see what he does.
I have tried to be open about it and broad minded and glad he told me but I am not doing it. We have only just started seeing each other and just wondered if other girls have experienced this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2008): These situations don't usually work out well at all......especially if one of you is not wanting to go there. I would tell him you are having a hard time understanding how to deal with your feelings about touching another woman(you are not a lesbian) and worried that you would get jealous and hurt and could he please be a man about it and show you how to handle it by trying it first with the two of you and another man. That way you can learn how to handle it by example (HIS). Since he is the expert, he shouldn't have any problem with this LOLBTW, is your boy a bit of a porn freak?
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reader, ilovelove +, writes (30 June 2008):
okay well first of all you're right. most guys do have a fantasy about threesomes. such fanatsies are natural for guys, and you shud b plsd he is open enough to tell you his inner sexual fantasies with you. however, if you have clearly said 'no' and that youre not into it and have no desire to, he shud be happy to respect that, even if he doesnt like it. maybe talk to him and tell him why you dont want to do it, or why you wudnt be comfortable with it, instead of just saying 'no' so that he understands you have real issues about it and he will more than likely appreciate your honesty.altho i havnt had a threesome so cant answer some of your qusetions, i would advise you to stick with your feelings and what feels right and NEVER comprimise them just to please him if its not right for you. good luck x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2008): I was once the guest in a threesome with my bestfriend and her man. It was a little awkward at first, so you might consider having a few drinks before you get started. It was fun. It was a lot of taking turns. She went, then I went, and meanwhile whoever wasn't er "performing" at the time, was kissing him or kissing the other girl.It's a good memory. We laugh about it together all the time. Be sure to choose someone you can trust to have a threesome with. You don't want jealousy to come into play.
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