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writes:Hello, I am 21 years old and my boyfriend is 22, we've been together almost six months. He tells me that I'm all he has and his friends are not even his real "friends." I was spending the night at house the other day, hoping to be alone with him but he invited his friend over, who I'm not very fond of and they just played video games all night. In the morning, we got into a big fight because I told him that I felt left out and he was being inconsiderate. He called me crazy and said that he wants a girlfriend who will hang out with his friends too. I don't mind hanging out with of them but I am never truly alone with him (except in bed of course) because he always invites his friends over. And now, he invited his friends to stay with us when we go to Hawaii on break, the only time when we can be alone and he invites his friends again!! It just really drives me crazy when he says that I'm his only friend and then he goes and does that! We fight about it a lot because I'm somewhat anti-social and he knows that, he just doesn't understand. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2011): First of all Im not sure if a guy saying his frnds are not even real frnds is a decent guy. Being social is important part of life.
And about your concern, guys tend to be active and outgoing, I guess. And its totally good thing for him to have lots of frnds to hang out with. But the thing is that you dont know for sure if he really cares you or he just wants to show off in front of his frnds by being seen with a pretty girl. I think you really should confront him about this and make yourself clear that youre totally ok with hanging out with his frnds but a headsup might be nice so you dont have to end up being in an awkward situation and that you do want to spend time alone with him so you guys can 'talk'.
Going party and clubs and some loud places where you guys dont have to talk might be fun but to be in a relationship you need more.
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