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anonymous
writes:Okay, here's my story...perhaps you can help. I have fallen in love with this one guy (we'll call him John). John is a great friend of mine and we hang out often. He is really popular, a great guy, but a huge flirt. However, he seems to flirt with every other girl, except me. He says that I'm the "sister he never had". I know it sounds hopeless, but I really want to date him. Is there anything I can do to win his affections, or is there absolutely no hope for me, and I should move on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2008): I'm sorry but if he just wants to be friends, maybe it's not a good idea to try and change the way he feels? If he's going to grow feelins for you, let it happen on it's own. Don't get down about it, he just probably doesn't see you in the same way you see him.
You could try flirting and seeing how he reacts, that way you'll know how he feels toward you :)
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (12 July 2008):
 It depends, is he really behaving like a brother or would the relationship if you were true siblings be on Jerry Springer?
He doesn't flirt with you but you two do spend a lot of time together? It means there are feelings but what kind? Yes, men can be just friends with women. Maybe for some reason he just doesn't see you as a potential mate.
Could be your looks, attitude or slightly more flattering that he doesn't see you as a potential one-night-stand.
If you two are close friends, and he is not that much of a player you might just be able to get him to realize that sisters have more uses then get you into trouble. If you enjoy being with him, just spend time with him and subtly remind him that your are not just a pall but a female.
Frankly, what have you got to loose? If it doesn't work out, your heart might be broken, but if you don't try, you still got a broken heart.
As for the tricks a woman can use to remind a man she is a woman, ask a woman.
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