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writes:I'm not getting over my ex and I dont really want to either. My boyfriend of 3 years revealed to me he wanted us to go on a break as he never had a single life, he was busy doing other things and didnt get toghether with many girls at all. He is going to college in sept as a mature student (23) and wanted the break to start then. I tried to carry on as normal but I was too hurt and decided to end things.He said it didnt feel right, he wanted to see me the very next day. I said I wasnt strong enough to see him just yet. HE has rang me nearly every day in the past 2 weeks. Not annoying I love to hear from him, its like we're still the same which makes me so confused. I said at the time that this was his mistake to make not mine.He said he wanted to be single and now Ive given it to him on a plate he doesnt seem to be sure about it. I miss him and I didnt want to break up with him at all. If I i took him back, I would worry he would just turn around and say he feels the same and will want to go off to college for the single life.Oh and just to make it extra painful he asked me to go on holidays with him, I said i never heard of people who break up and go on holidays together. I said you mean "as friends" and he said it was up to me. Ugh he knows i want us to be together but he also knows I want a reliable relationship.
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reader, Who  +, writes (22 April 2009):
 "I did a stupid thing and went down to see him at the weekend. One thing led to another inevitably..."
Well, I don't consider it stupid. Hopefully years in the future you can look back at this last time with found memories. When you man asks you why you are smiling just tell him "Oh, I'm happy we have each other."
"he said the "wanting new experiences" thing still stands"
You know what to do. I'm sure you will take lessons from this experience into your future relationship(s).
"I'm so heartbroken and angry."
While you are waiting for these feeling to fade, you can try this. Take his photo and look at it for a while. Draw some horns on it. Then a scar, some missing teeth, maybe long eyelashes and a dress. Always worked for me.
Best of luck; soon another boy will happen along that will make it all better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell the developments... I did a stupid thing and went down to see him at the weekend. One thing led to another inevitably... So the next day I said I couldnt see him anymore, obviously we couldnt control ourselves around eachother and until he could work out what it is he wanted from me I wouldnt see him.
Later on I rang him and after he said him "wanting new experiences" still stands I said I thought it was best if we didnt talk to eachother for a while. Talking to me everyday isnt what a break up is. So he has the chance now to either realise what he wants from me- not to lose me OR to just get over me.
I hope beyond all hope its the first one cos I love him and have been so happy with him until this point.
But if he is just like every other man, need to sow his wild oats (sorry to bunch u all in there)! I wont be there when hes done. Is it just a man thing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell I met him at the weekend one thing led to another.. Yes it was stupid. So the day after I told him it was best if we didnt see eachother for a while if we couldnt control ourselves.And if he still couldnt decide what he wanted from me. He said he understood. Later on I called and after he said the "wanting new experiences" thing still stands I said it was best if we didnt speak for a while, as Ive heard from him everyday since we broke up and thats not what a break up is. He needs to realise what hes done and either come to his senses or get over me. I'm so heartbroken and angry. I hope he does love me as much as he thinks he does.
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reader, Who +, writes (16 April 2009):
Well, I have 2 guesses:1. Your boyfriend does not know what he wants.2. He knows what he wants, and it is to keep you and chase after other girls at collage.If you know what you want in a relationship, and he is giving it to you, you can try to find out if #1 is the case. If so the two of you can try to work out what he wants. If #2 is the case he will try to hide that fact from you. If #2 is true, well I think you know what to do then.
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