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writes:I have been seeing this guy very on and off for a couple of months. He is younger than me, but really nice, we get on really well but he has never wanted a relationship and has always been really bad with cancelling / answering texts etc. So clearly he only ever wanted is sex. I have always really liked him and did my best to not hassle him in the hope he'd change his mind. It seems he never did. I went on holiday over xmas and just before I got on the plane he text saying "do miss you gorgeous" but when I was away, I texted him and got no reply. When I got back after 2.5 weeks, I made a point of seeing him cos I looked hot! So, I saw him and dismissed all his efforts to get me back to his house, and I went home. However he did text last Saturday night and I went over and we had amazing sex. Anyway I hadn't text him since, thou he text me when he heard from a friend he works with that my car got broken into. This was totally pointless text as far as I was concerned, but it simply asked if much got taken! I replied, and then heard nothing. So Sunday morning I got a text at 7.30 saying he can't stop thinking about me at the minute, and he is w***ing over me right now, and needs to hear my voice! I told him I don't know why he is calling me and told him to get off the phone. I called him the next morning but he didn't answer and I haven't heard from him since.Thing is I still really like this guy, and I really want him to decide he does actually miss me. Is him missing the sex a start? I am desperately trying to forget about this guy, but I can't seem to do it. Anyone got any ideas what to do.
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (28 January 2008):
 This guy has you on a leash doesnt he he wants sex and there you are he feels horny and your at the end of the phone lucky him but poor you, you want a relationship but seems to me he wants sex and nothing more i would just leave him the hell alone and find someone who gives you the respect you deserve and doesnt abuse your body likes his play toy. Its doesnt matter how much you like him and want a relationship its more then likely he doesnt
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2008): In a word, No.
He's made it quite clear to you that all he wants is sex, whether it's on the phone or in person. If that's not what YOU want, why are you bothering with him?
Phil
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2008): I think you have a very good chance of getting this man to change his mind - about the same chance a snowball has in the fires of Hell!Sorry, but he does not want a relationship - he's made that clear to you, both by his words and behavior. Nothing you tell us gives any indication whatsoever that he'll ever want more than free sex. Disappointing, yes, but you said you felt used by him.You might consider that its time to pull the plug on this one. Why should you waste any more time and energy pining after someone who values you so little? Especially when there's sure to be some good, decent, fun, considerate guys who might well jump at the chance to have a fulfilling relationship with you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2008): Yes I want a relationship with him, but it is not looking likely, especially when he texts/phones me at some ridiculous hour after phone sex!I haven't contacted him for a while and am hoping that this might make him realise he likes me. We used to get on really well, have nights in etc but he has already said he doesn't want a relationship.He is definitely not getting free sex from now on as it made me feel quite worthless like that's all he thought i was good for! Anyone think there is any chance i can change this guy's mind???!
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