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writes:I been seeing someone for 8 month everything was good then about a week ago got he say he need a break to sort out what he want but yesterday he said he want to get back together a again he said he want to be with me and that he got sacred that why he want a break. All a need to know is dose he want to be with me.and or his play games please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2013): Maybe the relationship was originally set up in a way such that he felt smothered, and felt that the only way to get a breath of fresh air was to suggest a break.
I know nothing about you; maybe this isn't true, but if you two were fairly tight or you were making him your whole life or putting restrictions on his activities, he may have just needed to feel like himself again, and then realized that he does love you, but the circumstances were what was smothering.
A stab in the dark: only you know your circumstances! Be honest with yourself and him. Ask him in a nonjudgmental tone what led to him requesting a break.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (27 August 2013):
 It think it all comes down to WHAT YOU want. Do you want to try again? Or are you done?
Personally, I don't think it's a good sign to have doubts only 8 months in, but it could b "cold feet" more then doubt.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (27 August 2013):
 We guys are ALWAYS looking for that greener grass (lawn).
Sometimes, we have to look all over town for it, and that takes time. Sometimes, we can look just-next-door and find that the grass isn't greener, after all. THAT (the latter) sounds like what happened to/with your B/F.
The decision is your's. You can give him a "pass" for this incident if you think it's just a one-time aberration. OR, you can tell him that you're not up for such shenanigans ("breaking up then making up").... and send him on his way. Your call.
Good luck....
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2013): A week is too long. I think people sometimes break up without really thinking it through, and if they come back within 24 hours realizing what a mistake they had made... it can be dealt with. I think a week is too long. You could have another go with him if you want to, but I suggest you be cautious for a while as he may do the same thing again. Breaking up weakens a relationship, and the longer the breakup lasts, unless there is a real issue to be dealt with, the harder it is to recover. I don't think he is necessarily playing games on purpose, but he may be 'undecided' for a while.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2013): Sounds like either he got cold feet after 8 months and wanted to be sure, or, he had someone else in the wings and he gave it a try and it didn't work out, so he is back.Check his actions - don't go with what he says, go with what he does. Does he behave as if he regrets the week apart? Does he behave as if he is sure and wants to be with you? Does he call? Be consistent? Show his intentions? If he says he does, but his actions don't go with it, lose him as he will just hurt you again, he is not a sure thing. Could be fears, could be fear of commitment, or ... something else.
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reader, Thetruthisugly  +, writes (27 August 2013):
 My son does that to his girlfriend he wants to break up to have some time to himself and then goes back a few days later!! I don't know if your boyfriend is the same as you have not given much detail about him. My advice to you is think what you want?? are you happy in your relationship??
does he make you laugh?? can you be yourself?? If your walking on egg shells with him then time to run girl!!
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