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41-50,
anonymous
writes:hello everyone. . I would be grateful for some advice. . My boyfriend of four years walked out yesterday saying it was over after a strange tense day. We had had a lovely week together the week before but for some reason yesterday we were at each others throats and i felt ignored. He used to be affectionate with me and tell me he loved me but now he doesnt say it ever. . I felt down yesterday as after breakin up but gettin back together several times i was thinkin 'is this all life has for me' we dont seem to be moving forward, despite bein engaged he never mentions marriage. He has just gone on tablets for depression and recently increased the dose but yesterday he was so quick to jump up and say he was going. My kids had been fairly naughty but they are just kids. . They were bickerin with his daughter and he said right this feels horrible now. I cried and begged him not to leave. He did tho and is now ignoring me. In the past he usually comes round after a week just when i'm gettin over things and deep down the relationship doesnt feel two sided. But today i'm gutted and miss him. When we go out he is terrible for eyin up women and kicks off if i say anything. . He doesnt understand or seem to care when i say this and the fact he never says i love you makes me feel unloved. I feel like hes waitin for somethin better. What shud i do if he comes back? Am lost . Do you think he will? X
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2011): I know you feel horrible but deep down, you will be even more miserable if you get a man to stay where he really doesn't want to be. NEVER beg and cry in hopes to persuade a man to be with you.
You have based your attitude towards life and the way you feel about yourself on this man and that is a recipe for failure. For him, it is too much of a burden to carry the responsibility of your emotional well being and that will push any man away and eventually walk out.
Let him go and learn to love yourself. When you can do that, you won't need a man to fill content within yourself and that's when a man will find you and stick by you willingly.
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