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writes:i once had a crush on a guy, so i asked him out but he rejected me, about 6 months later one of my best friends (also one of his best friends) told me that he had been talking to her about asking me out (this never happend though). now its been 1 and a half years and me and him are best friends, but i've always had feelings for him and now i feel a crush has tuned into love. but i am confused as whether to tell him or not, because he often asks me about when i fancied him, and i somtimes notice what looks like small hints that he has feelings for me. what do i do? 3
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reader, Blod +, writes (4 September 2010):
 I think you need to investigate more before you make a move on him. You don't want to risk losing what you've got and being rejected again. You need to be sure that you're not seeing these 'signs' because you want to. As in, you could be reading more into what he does because you feel so strongly for him.
However, if you're good friends then there's obviously something between you. It just depends on whether he sees you only as a friend, or potentially as something more. So you could drop a few hints to see what kind of response you get. Another idea would be to ask mutual friends. They tend to notice if there's something going on and might know how he feels. Good luck.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (4 September 2010):
Hi there. There probably is some sort of attraction between you.
In that few years since the crush you had, you have changed and grown up a bit more (both physically and mentally), so you naturally look a bit different and are more of a young woman.
You have now both reached puberty and things naturally change in that process for boys as well as girls.
All I can suggest, is that you just be friends with each other for now and get to know each other on a relaxed casual basis. Don't get heavy or talk about what you feel yet. Just have fun and laugh, and find out what you have in common - music, likes and dislikes, tv shows, movies, books, hobbies and interests. Just enjoy life. There is plenty of time to get serious and fall in love.
The feeling you are having is not love. It's just physical attraction only. It's often referred to infatuation. That's quite normal for your stage in life as a teenager. To actually feel true love, takes a lot more than just being attracted to someone. It only happens after getting to know someone really well and finding out what makes them tick. It can take a few months to get to know a person to that level. I have no doubt that it can seem like you love him, but it's actually just that you like him and would like to get to know him better.
Anyway, don't be too worried about it. Just for now enjoy being friends and see what happens over time.
Take care and best wishes.
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