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female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:Dear CupidI was with my boyfriend for almost three years. In that time I thought the world of him.I suffered from anxiety and agoraphobia and one time, he dumped me and threw me out of his house. I had nowhere to go, it broke my heart. However, we got back together again. He said I pissed him off, didn't give him enough space. We were living together.So I got my own place and made a lot of effort with our relationship. However, he had a temper, he had hit me before and I often felt as if I was walking on egg shells. It was as if me just breathing annoyed him.We split a few times and got back together again. I was so upset each time. One time, he emailed me and said he needed time on his own and three days after our split, he was on a dating site looking for women! He tried to explain himself.This time, he dumped me and I didn't say or do anything wrong. Again I was upset, he thumped me lightly in the back, threw something at me and then threw me out of his house. He lost the plot.That was a month ago. I am very strong and have coped well this time. I asked him for closure but he mistook that as meaning I wanted to get back with him and sent me a text saying why can't I understand that he doesn't love or want to be with me anymore. I just wanted to have my own say. He had dumped me in a cowardly way and I felt amazingly used. I know there is no easy way to tell someone its over, but he did it in a violent and nasty way which I didn't deserve. I had basically laid out the red carpet for him! Now he justifies himself saying he fell out of love with me a while ago.He is on the dating site again...saying he is a straight talker, honest as the day is long and respects people. Its a laugh!I know there are better people out there and I have met them. I do not wish to dwell on him, I know that is unhealthy.Will he treat someone else the way he has treated me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2007): Hi darling,
You are well rid and you should feel liberated what an arse, yes he will treat someone else the same, You are better of without him, find someone who deserves you and treats you with respect and kindness.
dont put up with bullys and control freaks you are worth so much more than this hunny....TAKE CARE LOTS OF LOVE TO YOU XXXX
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