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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for 4 months and I can honestly say we love eachother. He has told me since the begining that I give awesome blowjobs. Today we were joking around and I asked if he ever told anyone how good I am. He said yes I told 2 girls I know. I was caught off guard. Is it just me or is it weird that he would tell girls? I don't mean to sound like a baby but it kinda bothered me. :/
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reader, Illithid +, writes (8 December 2010):
 My most recent ex-girlfriend told a group of her friends (6-10 of them, mixed genders, sitting together at a table) that she enjoyed my skills at giving her oral, and described it to me as bragging about her boyfriend to them. I took it as a compliment, both that she wasn't just telling ME that I'm good, but actually telling others the same story (meaning I could trust she wasn't just lying to cover my feelings) and also with the same measure that I was proud to be bragged about in any area. But then again, I'm a guy and you're a girl, so I can't say whether it's going to feel the same for you to be bragged about.
On the bright side at least, he was talking about how happy he was with you and not looking for someone else better! That's good, right?
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reader, oh dear!  +, writes (7 December 2010):
I don't know your relationship but if that was me I'd take it is a compliment. However if you don't feel happy about him disclosing such information then I would say to him: you'd rather he didn't discuss your bedroom antics with other people, as it'll mean you won't won't feel as free in the bedroom in the future and we don't want that! ;-)
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reader, Mjfbla +, writes (7 December 2010):
 If he had told a guy would it had bothered you? Probably not because then it would be more bragging like let me tell you how good my girl is. DOnt freak out or lay down boundaries because thats extreme for this. It may be weird because you dont know this situation. So ask him why he told them. Mention you thought it was weird that he told a girls. Just find out his reasoning. If it still bothers you tell him but let it go. You cant change the past.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (7 December 2010):
 Were these girls hitting on him? Maybe he told them that (misguidedly) to get them to back off?
I think it's okay to tell him that bothers you. Maybe a nice gentle discussion about boundaries and what the ground rules for sharing intimate details will be in your relationship is in order. Be clear about what you feel is acceptable and listen to his side as well.
So your guy is not perfect. Was this a malicious thing or an innocent lapse? It should be pretty easy to tell when you talk to him.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2010): This should bother you because he is telling people about your business without your permission which is wrong. Oral sex and sex involves a lot of trust and if the trust isn't there it should bother u. I think u should talk to him and explain your feelings towards this situation. If he doesn't care u understand then I think you should just leave him. Its for the best.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (7 December 2010):
 It is weird. Tell him to not tell others about private stuff ever again. A boyfriend of mine once told his friend, while I was in the same room, that he made me squirt. So your boyfriend isn't the first one to screw up just so you know. He's got a big mouth, be prepared for more blunders, but make it straight they are not acceptable.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (7 December 2010):
 I think you need to let him know that what happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom. I wouldn't like it if a partner was telling other girls either ...
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (7 December 2010):
 erm yeah, i wouldnt be happy about my boyfriend discussing blowjobs with girls either but i suppose you would have to have seen the situation and how this subject came up and who said what etc. hey at least he told em you was good! i think this is just a typical tactless young guy just having a laugh about things that you would rather he kept to himself, being immature. if there was anything bad going on then i dont think he wouldve told you that he had told them.
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (7 December 2010):
It seems inappropriate to me. But then again if he is just a teenage boy, perhaps he is not yet mature enough to understand boundaries in what is and what is not appropriate. You've only been together 4 months, you should tread carefully.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2010): 'I don't mean to sound like a baby but it kinda bothered me' of course it would bother you! If a boy I not long dated who I really liked and thought liked me, told ANYONE about our sexual private life I think I'd dump him there and then. It's just not nice and disrespectful to the person he 'loves', regardless if what he told them was telling them you were 'good' or not.
Are these girls his friends? He's probably told you he's told girls so you don't think it's bad because they're not males. But it's just as bad to me. You need to watch this boy he may not be who you think he is. He could have told them or other people a lot of other sexual stuff about you that you're not aware of.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2010): I think as females we have to get used to the fact that lots of guys brag to their friends about sexual things, even completely untrue... they think it important to impress others in that department and will do most anything to gain rep, regardless of how it might affect the girl's rep (which is based on something quite different).
But nice guys, and they do exist, keep close- lipped... you're not a baby for feeling bothered. Plenty would cut back if you brought up how it made you feel, so try that with this one.
-Tante Victoire
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (7 December 2010):
 I think him telling people about your sexual skills is very disrespectful and he should be ashamed of talking about the woman he loves in such a way to other people, you should tell him how it made you feel and that you dont want this to happen again and you are not been over sensitive at all!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2010): theres more to love than blow jobs, besides ur sex life is personal i certainly wudn b happy if my bloke went and discussed it with ppl who no us even if it is a compliment! Uv every right to feel weird about it!
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