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writes: he said he likes me and he told me to wait until he becomes single. he has a live-in gf of 10 years. i waited for almost a year but he said he can't leave her yet because it's complicated and he has financial burden with her. for the last week i just ignore his calls and i don't really want to talk to him because he sweet talks all the time. should i continue on ignoring his calls ? is it rude to hung up on him ? should i send him short text message to 'leave me alone' then just ignore his calls ? or just totally disconnect from him ? please help
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reader, Lemonpixie  +, writes (3 November 2006):
 Yes...eventually. I suggest you go out on the town, hit up a few pubs and clubs to get your mind off of him. Maybe you'll meet a guy thats into you NOW instead of later! But nevertheless it will hurt for a bit, and the best remedy is time. Definitely keep yourself busy though so you're not tempted to call him back.
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reader, sweetsugar +, writes (1 November 2006):
sweetsugar is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni thought i'd come back to say thanks for your answers and yes i have been ignoring his calls. the month of october he's called me almost 50 times and text almost 30 times. so almost 100 x he called and sent text msg. he said he wants to talk, he has so much respect for me, he wanted to give me gifts, he doesn't want me to hate him etc... why does he talk like this ? why doesn't he just stop calling ? what could he possible be thinking ? but yah i haven't responded nor answered his calls. but it's so hard to ignore him. honestly i am in love with him but okay i'm stupid to say that. i'm just being honest..could someone please tell me that this feeling will go away..thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2006): I agree with what everyone else has said! Either ignore any more messages he sends, or text him and put it in a bit stronger terms than "leave me alone." Perhaps something like: "I don't want to hear from you again, If you call I will hang up." THEN if he calls or emails or texts after that, well, you've given him fair warning.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2006): dont wait for him! if he really loved you he would have left this other gf. if he is gonna leave her how do you know he'll be faithful. for all you know there could be another girl he's saying 'wiat for me' to. so dont trust him and get on with your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2006): He sounds like a Rat you waited a year?
dont you think your a bit better then that? you are doing the right thing ignoring him get your number changed! find a guy who'll treat you right stay away from Men with live in girlfriend dont be a doormat anymore!and start doing fun stuff that intrests you and meet a desent guy that way but right now forget about men for now focus on yourself what do you want?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2006): It's really up to you. I don't know how long you've been seeing this guy, but if he's not willing to leave the woman he's living with, it sounds like he just wants to fool around on the side but he doesn't want to give up the "comfort" of the thing he has with her. You need to extract yourself before you waste any more time with this guy. Either drop him a line and tell him, you're moving on. Or just ignore him completely. He'll get the hint eventually. Sometimes the less said the better. If you drop him a line, you open up the possibility for more conversations from him, i.e. pleading -- and a chance he'll talk you into staying with him as his "side girl"....
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2006): ask him to 'leave you alone' then after that you can NEVER reply to his texts again! If you do NOT send him such a text, then ignore him completely. He is stringing you along - if he really liked you more than his girlfriend he would have left her by now! He is leading you on - you deserve better and there ARE better men out there!
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reader, babyruth +, writes (5 October 2006):
If this guy says he'll finish his current gf for you how do you know he will remain faithful to you? That is if he ever finishes his current gf.
to be honest i think this guy didn't want to say no to you so he told you he would go out with you when he's finished her, which i don't think will happen, sorry.
I think you should text or call him and tell him that you don't think anythings going to happen between you, it's been a year and he's still with her!
I hope i helped you hun, if not send me a mesage with your question :) i hope you do the right thing! x
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