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writes: Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years.We don't see each other too often because we both have busy schedules, when we do, however, it'r very great and fun.But sometimes we talk on msn. The problem is, he gets bored and usually leaves and gets mad because he gets bored, he says I'm boring over msn.Well, we don't see each other too often, and it's either msn or not speaking sometimes! I get so hurt that I "bore" him. If I bore him so much then why the heck doesn't he dump me?Should I dump him and let him find somebody more entertaining? Is it because we've been together for two years? This has been his most serious and longest relationship. What should I do? I get hurt that I'm boring, makes me feel like he'd rather be with anyone else... maybe someone who has his same schedule. He doesn't bore me, true, msn can be crap but I rather have that contact than none at all... and I try to make the most of it, he never bores me online. I feel sad because I'm boring!(No, this isn't our biggest issue, but we haven't had other problems lately... so don't go "be thankful this is your biggest issue", because it's not! This is just another issue that makes me feel like a crappy girlfriend and that he'd rather be with anyone else)
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reader, Artistry  +, writes (29 August 2008):
 Hi there, Do you two like each other? I am thinking that this is not the only thing that he has said to you about you. Is he a nice person, you have been together for two years, if you are boring, he has been satisfied with boring for a long time. :o). Tell me, do you think you are boring?
What do you feel you are? Now, you don't have anything to prove to anyone, let set that straight right now. No one can make you feel anything negative unless you give them permission too. If you think you are boring, then work on not being boring, but do it for yourself, not for him. If you become interesting to him, there may be something else that he finds wrong. That's why I asked if you both liked each other. Get on you horse and become interesting, start reading, Newsweek, Time and U. S. News and World Reports,
began reading the New York Times, get into the things that are going on in the world. Watch the BBC channel for overseas News, check out CNBC for business news. Find a good small book of poetry, build your vocabulary, do crossword puzzles. Take charge of what you want to be and do. If you don't feel you need to do anything to change yourself, then stand. Leave it be. It's your call, if you want to change, he may not be what you want after you are in another place in your life. Take care and stay in touch.
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (29 August 2008):
 Have you ever expressed this distress to your boyfriend?
Sometimes, we humans do or say things we don't even realize that hurt others. And this might be his case. So next time you talk to him, express to him that it bothers you when he talks to you that way. Please try to keep your composure, no matter how much he makes you mad. Try to bring all concerns if you can.
This is my opinion, but I think dumping him for this is a little bit of over-reaction. Yes, I'm pretty sure this hurt you a lot and I can imagine it, but this is a prolem that could be resolved by talking. But then again, you have said there are more issues in your relationship, so you're the judge
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