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writes:me and my ex-boyfriend started going out on april 6, 2010. on august 23 i was walking with 4 of my girlfriends and 4 guy friends. we were all crossing the street and of course the light was red. while we were crossing the street one of my guy friends and i were holding hands, he's like a brother to me and that's the only way i see him nothing further than that. everyone was holding hands. so i turn to my left and i see my ex in his car with another girl in the passengers seat. once the light turned green he called me and said it was over, when i asked what was that girl doing in he's car he said, "she asked me for a ride to her job but i said no because i did't have gas, but she said she was gonna give me gas money, and i only said yes because i was going to go pick you up from school." he actually was sayin the truth. but he didn't want to believe me that i didn't do nothing else with my guy friend, he thought i cheated on him which i didn't. later on we got back together but then broke up with me because he said he couldn't forgive me. but later we got back together. the other day on january 4th, 2 days before our 9 months anniversary, he broke up with me for the same reason. i have explained to him that i never cheated on him and that i won't. now i did so many things for him, i changed my number because they called me private and my ex said to change it so i did. only 13 people have my new number which is only my girlfriends and my family. he doesn't want me hanging out with my 4 best girlfriends, so i stopped hanging out with them. he still loves me and i love him but idk what to do anymore I'm trying so hard to work things out again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2011): You did your best, give him time and space to think about it. 'Eveyone was holding hands'?? It is strange for me. Are u sure the guy doesn't have a crash on you?
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reader, missyfit +, writes (10 January 2011):
 Dear writer,
First of all, i don't exactly know the situation is but i'll try to answer your question as hard as i can. i think your boyfriend has trust issues with you because of the incident. Relationships builds on trust and if you told him the truth and he doesn't believe it, that wouldn't be fair for your part. Please don't try to please him and do everything for him such as not hanging out with your 4 best gfs because boyfriends.. they come and go and girl friends you can keep them forever. Plus, i don't understand why he doesn't want you to hang out with your gfs. I'm telling you this from experience, girl to girl. If you revolve yourself around your boyfriend and suddenly he leaves you, honey, you don't have anybody. ((Sorry for the ugly truth)) You have deserted your friends in the process of making your boyfriend happy. That's not a very healthy relationship. If he does really love you, he would trust your word (that you didn't cheat on him) and he should forgive you (even though you're telling the truth).
Good luck hun & best of luck.
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