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writes:I met up with my children's father today. We have not been getting on as there is a real communication problem and I find it a turn off. I feel like I do not know him. We have never lived together which has also been a problem as I have just had to move out of my home due to financial difficulties.When he saw me to day we spoke a little about my youngest and about my house that am now letting out. then he touches my breast and makes reference that he thinks I am sleeping with someone else.I am not that kind of girl and can go with out sex for years. I don't do one night stands. Just because I am not sleeping with him why does he think I am sleeping with someone else. I found it really offensive as he clearly does not know me.I would not put it past him to be sleeping with someone else.What can I do to prove to him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2015): I think we need more info. When did you last sleep with him? Do you want to have other than a parental relationship with him?
We men can be silly and assume that ladies need sex like we do. I wouldn't necessarily be offended that he doesn't know you can go long periods without sex-- have you explained it to him before?
I don't think you can prove to him that you aren't sleeping with somebody else. If he doesn't trust you-- his loss.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (23 November 2015):
 He's a baby daddy. Not boyfriend or husband. So he has no right to touch your breast as if he owns you and even if you are sleeping with someone else it's not his business unless your child was there too.
If he wants to be intimate with you, then he has to be clear about where you both stand, and whether there are plans to live together long term. He doesn't get to sleep with you just because you have history and a child together.
He actually feels it's easier to accept if you are sleeping with someone else as reason to not sleep with him. Because he feels worthless, unwanted if you are single, no prospects, and still won't sleep with him. He feels he must be so ugly that you would rather go without than to have sex with him. He does not say you sleep with someone else to imply you are immoral, or to offend you.
It doesn't sound like you want to patch things up with him so an appropriate rely would be, you only talk about the welfare of the children. He doesn't have to know about your love life.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (23 November 2015):
 What can I do to prove to him?
Why do you think you HAVE to prove anything to him?
He seems like a piss-poor excuse for a father. He is OK with you not having a home, and to top it off accusing you of cheating... What kind of man is that?
If I were you I'd go and apply for child support and ignore him. If he isn't helping out with the kids, then DO NOT have any more kids with him.
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