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*lwayznd4eva116
writes:Hey guys. i have a problem. this guy im seeing, hes 31 and im 18. we've been talking for over a year now and the sex is great, i mean the best i ever had ! when were talkin or textin each other, i never have a problem telling him wat i want him to do to me sexually. and ill tell him what i want to do to him but its like everytime i get to his house, i freeze up. i get soo nervous and it takes me a really long time to get comfortable enough to do something. it gets him really mad, and thats part of the reason we're having issues now..he thinks im "playing games" does it sound like i am?? i need advice about how to get more comfortable.how do i make the first move?
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reader, 78ta09 +, writes (10 September 2009):
 i cant give you much advice here because im in the SAME situation almost to a tee.. i just turned 18 im with this guy who is 26 and he's a lot more comfortable doing crazy things ive never done before lol but i make it obvoius that i am nervous and he will butter me up until feel comfortable.. like anal. ive never done that in my entire life.. i told him id try it and when i realized it was CLEARLY uncomfortable i asked him to stop and he did. but he likes it so over the past month or so ive been reconsidering it. just take control. give him head and act like you absolutely LOVE it.. then when he makes you feel uncomfortable just threaten not to give him head anymore.. not in a grumpy way, in a playful way.. when he makes you feel that way kiss and bite his neck and then whisper that you wont do it anymore in his ear and then put this sweet innocent smile on your face and he cant help but smile and say 'okay sweetie' tell him you will consider it or you will try it but if you dont like it your going to stop.. that way he is aware of it and you dont just stop halfway and then he has no idea why.. that can be very frustrating.. or if you are uncomfortable giving head (as i am) do it for a short while 2 mins or so until he gets hard then tell him you want him to f*** you with a naughty smile.. trust me, he will. and he will love every second of it. ive learned all this over 3 months. i should really have him down in a year and a half! :) good luck!
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