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writes:I've been dating my boyfriend for 3 months now. we're both 26. The other day we were talking about how people in my middle eastern culture are always in search of a mate. He said that he bets that I would have a lot of offers (for marriage), I said I wasn't interested in anything like that (my people and marrying them... no offense, just a little burnt out) and he responded "I think you would make a great wife." (with a cute smile on his face) I kind of brushed it off as I don't want to dwell on these things but I do wonder if that is on his mind. I could ask him but we've only been dating for a few months and that would be a little much. What do you guys think? I would think a guy would totally avoid talks about wife qualities and such if those things didn't cross his mind. This isn't a big deal to me, it just came up and was kind of surprising.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the feedback everyone! I definitely wont be addressing the subject with him just yet. 3 months is a little, no, way too early! I think eventually when we're ready we can talk about it though. I think he would make a great husband and I know it's an idea that's come to my mind and I hope that maybe he is thinking of the same thing. I am very thankful to have him in my life, I am in no way looking for a "new" friend, but I agree that there are a lot of others who don't know what they have, I luckily understand how awesome this person is =)Thank again.
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reader, Mr. Smith +, writes (5 April 2011):
WOMAN HE DEFINETLY LOVES YOU AND CONSIDERS YOU A RARE GEM... but then again like a typical north american woman i bet you want to have fun ,party and meet "new" friends first...come on this man thinks you are the one for him can't you at least be thank ful for that and be honored that a man consdiers you this way?????
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (5 April 2011):
 Well from the sounds of it I think he's saying
"You'd make a great wife"
Would he make a great husband?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2011): Hi!
Im middle eastern and I will say that it is common for men to say these things with utmost genuineness. Relationships are usually seriously taken by the culture. If I had to guess, he has taken his time to find only the certain qualities he is looking for in a wife and he has potentially found that with you. He may not know you entirely but with us its all about what qualities matter most to us and once we find, we begin to pursue seriously. I told my LDR GF that she has "wife material potential" and she said she was flattered. However, I reassured because we are at a distance I would take my time with things and she has acknowledged that. I assure you he didnt just casually bring somethin like that up and more than likely was not joking. Id sit and have a face to face with him about relationship goals. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2011): Chances are he's been imagining what it would be like if you were his wife :) My boyfriend said that to me before we were even a proper couple and by now I know for sure that's exactly what he'd been musing about (though I never asked him straight out). If he alludes to the idea again over the coming months then you can be sure those are the lines he's thinking along. Good luck!
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