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writes:I fell in love with a guy while in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend. Feeling guilty about it, I distanced myself but because we work in the same office and he is my team partner I cannot stay very far away. He was really smitten by me and vice versa. So, I decided I had to choose. I told him to give me until Christmas to sort things out with my boyfriend but a week before Christmas,I asked my boyfriend for a time out but I did not know my boyfriend could not cope. When my boyfriend called, I felt really sad because he was very upset and said he loved me. After putting down the phone, I texted and said I love him. I just felt so bad, Christmas came and gone I had not broken up. Then, I decided to leave my boyfriend because although i cared a lot for him, my heart was with the other guy and i had to choose. I asked the other guy for some time and that we would be friends until I settled. He agreed. He proposed we stayed close but I said no as i was afraid I could not control myself. He put down the phone saying, it will be difficult to love you from afar. I told him 2 weeks and he will forget me. He said, maybe me but not him. I broke up with my boyfriend the very same night. i knew I loved the other more. I had a few drinks and went to sleep. I called the other guy and told him I was single then he blurted out that he is not sure if I love him because I took longer than I promised to settle things. I went to sleep and cried. The next day, at work we were fine then we walked home. We had a talk and he said, he read my text messages and could not stand that I said I love you at the same time to two people. He thinks I do not want him enough. He says that he wants to respect my boyfriend and let time past first. He thinks I am not the me he fell for. I cried. I love this guy a lot. My question is, now we do not touch each other but he sayd he likes me I like him. and time will tell. It hurts so much? Does he even want to be with me???
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2009): you know what? you made a mistake by breaking up with your boyfriend..i guess you should try to go for your bf..this long distance guy is just playing games
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reader, pinkipod109  +, writes (1 January 2009):
 Gosh. Guys can be so stupid. does he know that you told him you loved the other guy because you knew him longer (i think) and that you cared abut him and did not want to hurt his feelings? You wouldnt break up with your boyfriend for nothing. You love him, and you know it for sure. Going through love transitions can be really tough, and its not just a regular math question. You need time to think, and then time to organize everything you've thought! You probably felt guilty for loving another man and sad that you could hurt your boyfriend's feeling and confused because you didn't know who you loved more and happy because you know in your heart that the man you DO love more loves you in return.
Tell this guy that you love him and you know it and just because you took more time than you said to make sure that you weren't making a horrible mistake doesn't mean you love him any less than he loves you. Good luck, and i hope i helped.
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