New here? Register in under one minute   Already a member? Login245057 questions, 1084625 answers  

  DearCupid.ORG relationship advice
  Got a relationship, dating, love or sex question? Ask for help!Search
 New Questions Answers . Most Discussed Viewed . Unanswered . Followups . Forums . Top agony aunts . About Us .  Articles  . Sitemap

He thinks I like his best friend but I like him. Its a mess!

Tagged as: Dating, Friends<< Previous question   Next question >>
Question - (19 June 2019) 3 Answers - (Newest, 20 June 2019)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

He thinks I like his friend yet I like him. We were attracted to each other and we knew it..but we didn't talk about it. His friend who is more out going and social asked me out and I told him I am not interested in a relationship but we can be friends..i also hit in the fact that I liked his friend. His friend was okay with just being a friend. Now the one I like hates my guys... He pretty much started ignoring me... And tries to make me jealousy. His friend is capitalizing on this and u think pretends like I am his girlfriend behind my back.. I am traditional and can't directly tell a guy that I like him.. And I know he feels betrayed even when he didn't come forward and tell me he likes me.. We are not in high school.. We are 30. I am not attracted to his friend but I hang out with him because his great company. What should I do? Is he acting immature?

View related questions: best friend, immature, jealous

<-- Rate this Question

Reply to this Question


Share

Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question!

A male reader, N91 United Kingdom +, writes (20 June 2019):

N91 agony auntIt sure sounds like you’re in high school.

For what reason does he hate you? If he does hate you then why are you wasting your time trying to attract him?

If 2 grown adults can’t tell each other that they are romantically interested then it’s not meant to be, it’s as simple as that.

<-- Rate this answer

A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (20 June 2019):

Honeypie agony auntI'd leave them both alone for a GOOD long while.

If the guy you LIKE "hate your guts" and ignores you... then WHY are you not taking the HINT?

HE isn't interested. And his friend... only wants to play games.

It DOES sound like High School drama, something you are ALL to old for. Which is why I'd pull away from these two and move on.

Yes, I get it the friend is great company blah blah blah. You are HANGING out with the friend in hopes your crush will either get jealous or interested... it's not going to happen.

YOU!!! are wasting your time crushing on a guy who IS NOT interested and who IGNORES you. I mean is THAT really the kind of guy you want?

Is it because he is unavailable? Because nothing else you say about him is showing ANY kind of attractive traits. He sounds like an immature ass.

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A female reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2019):

No, you are being immature by hanging out with one guy while wanting to be with his friend.

The only way out of this mess is to drop them both and find a new love interest.

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

Add your answer to the question "He thinks I like his best friend but I like him. Its a mess!"

Already have an account? Login first
Don't have an account? Register in under one minute and get your own agony aunt column - recommended!

All Content Copyright (C) DearCupid.ORG 2004-2008 - we actively monitor for copyright theft

0.0312329000007594!