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36-40,
*abydoll
writes:what do you do when your fiance thinks he is never good enough for you, just because he is disabled? how do i prove to him that i really love him for who he is?
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reader, stina +, writes (7 June 2007):
 Hi Babydoll,
I think this is probably something that's going to have to evolve over time. Your fiance may think that way because he's been used to thinking that way for many, many years - that he's not good enough. (Not sure if he was born disabled...?) Anyway, I think this is just one of those times when you're going to just have to be there for him and then he'll beging to realize that you are truly in love with him for who he is.
It sounds like he has self esteem issues (maybe even depression?) - has he been to counseling or anything? Maybe you two could attend couples counselling sessions together. It could be quite beneficial and really allow you both to open up your hearts in new ways as drawn out by a counselor.
Sorry I couldn't be of more help, but I guess the reason is that you really aren't the one who has the problem. It sounds like your fiance may have some issues that he needs to work on himself. In the meantime, just continue being a caring and loving partner. And perhaps you could bring up the counseling sessions as I've suggested.
Take care.
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reader, ilikenight +, writes (7 June 2007):
 Marry him.
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