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writes:I'm in desperate need of some relationship advice.This is going to be really hard to put into words, but i'll try my best :)...I have been with my partner for a year now, he is one year older then me (18). We get on so well, i love spending time with him, and he tells me all the time that he loves me and loves spending time with me.But other the last couple of months, we've gone over a rough patch. He tells me tiny little lies, that really shouldn't bother me, but for some reason, they do :S and then i have a go at him, and get upset about the fact that he lied (even though it really didn't matter) Another one of our recent argument is about the way i feel, he kisses and hugs me, but recently i've been feeling distant from him, unless we are acting like friends. He does love me, but sometimes i just don't feel like i'm wanted as a girlfriend. I'm not sure how to put it. Like, he hugs and kisses me, tells me he loves me, but sometimes i don't want that, i just want him to make me feel like i'm needed/wanted, without the aid of hugs and kisses, touching and stuff. There have been loads of bigger and stupid arguments recently, but, with me, it's okay, because i talk to him about it straight away, and sort everything out, and then we're perfect again.My problem is, is that i have to sort everything out, i'll sit with him, and ask him questions (because he doesn't know what to say) and then he'll still not really know what to say. I'm trying my hardest to make things better, but he just keeps doing stupid things that really upset me! He just doesn't think some times! He used to talk to me a lot, but now he finds it really hard, and i've never given him a really hard time when he has talked to me, he just doesn't seem to want to.It's causing endless argument, and to be honest, i've felt so unloved because of it, i've actually considered breaking up with him.Because he's now 18, it's like he's too 'cool' to fight for me. i was trying to talk to him a few weeks back, and he just wasn't saying anything (he done something wrong towards me). I was trying to figure out why he done/ said these things. and i got fed up of his new 'i'm an adult' and talked about splitting upo with him. he didn't seem bothered so i done it. not out of spite, just because it's getting too hard for me now. Then after he was saying sorry and promising to make everything better.He has said this many times, and i have yet to see it actually happen. But it's not like he 'treats me like shit' as some people would say. He just doesn't think! He rather wait until something happens and then i have to sort it out.But i'm stuck now, this is down to him, and his communication skills will me have gone out the windows (only on sorting out arguments, heart to heart talks and stuff)I love him so much! and he tells me all the time how much he loves me! I'm his first girlfriend, so could this be why he is acting so clueless, even though we were alright at the start? I really don't want to leave him, he is the love of my life, but i feel so unloved right now, that i'm considering it :(What do i do to try and help him to talk to me, i can't sort this one out this time, it's all down to him :SPlease give me an opinion on some, if not ALL of theese things, i really need it.Help me thank you x
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2011): me&my boyfriend did this,he liked 3 girls the same time he was with me&treated me like i was nothing! now i ended it with him. i just told him straight&put how i felt,and he told me he understood. thats all you have to do! now he's gutted and wants me back! if he dosnt treat you like a princess then you dont need him in your life hunny,don't let him take you for a mug babe
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