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writes: My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 10 months. We are both in our thirties. He is away alot. He went out with friends the other night to a club. A girl that was with the group asked him for his phone number and he gave it to her. Two days later she called him and asked if he wanted to go to dinner. He said that everyone else was going to McDonalds and he didn't want that. So he went and picked her up and they went to dinner. He paid for dinner. He told me he has no intentions towards her and they went just as friends. I told him to open his eyes that she has intentions towards him. He said she is just a aquaintance and she doesn't even live in the states. But if she calls him up again and asks him out he would go but only in a group. What do you think? Can he be this stupid? Should I trust him that he has no intentions towards her and he really did just go to dinner for the food? HELP!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2006): Yes, guys can be that stupid!!! Maybe he is passive in this relationship and doesn't have intentions of anything but friendship, but she certainly does. As long as she is leading the way, he will follow, and it may lead to places he didn't intend to go to. If you care about being with this guy, intervene, put an end to this. But be warned, if this guy is easily lead astray, this won't be the only time you'll have to deal with this situation. Now it's a friend, a year from now a co-worker, etc... Make it clear to him that it's unacceptable to you. If he cares enough about your feelings, he'll do as you wish. If he gets defensive and sees nothing wrong with his behavior, I don't think he's worth you time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2006): well even if you are living in another state he still should not be taking another female out to dinner.ok if you want to look into this more you have to break the trust, if you dont want to do that then your just going to be left wondering how much time his spending with her and what they are up 2, ok you need to check his phone if he has one, check for messages from her or any other strange messages from numbers or names you dont know, if he has a computer and you can access it check his emails and history of what sites his visited, try checking his calls and see how many calls he has made to her, all of this will be able to tell you weather something is going on, and if their is something going on you then u can confront him about it wth the evidence, sure he will be upset you looked into his private stuff but then atleast you will be even, and if nothing is going on then he does not have to know of your investigating.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2006): He couldn't take me with him as I am in a different state right now, while he is away. I am planning on going down there next weekend. How do I look into this more??
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reader, harshbutfair  +, writes (2 February 2006):
 A man and a woman, in a restaurant, together, away from prying eyes, with mouth-watering delicacies (Oysters?), fine wines (a peppery Shiraz to get the blood flowing), attentive waters, long dreamy conversations, fluttering eyelashes and feet gently rubbing under the table (I'll stop now)... That's more than food kiddo!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2006): what a total ass hole, he should be taking you out for dinner not her,he should not have been given his phone number to her in the first place, and if she was just a friend why didnt he invite you too? a good male friend of mine who was in a relationship asked me out for a meal once, i went as i was naive and did;nt think anything of it till he took me for a fancy meal out, he didnt make any pases at me but a few months on and he admited that he had a major thing for me and has wanted to be with me, your guy or this girl has a thing for the other person, its just mater of working out who it is, i would investigate abit more into this, iwould not trust him.
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