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*nglishgirl2014
writes:I met a guy 3 weeks ago...random but he got out of his car and passed me his number...I texted him and added him on facebook and we chatted constantly about how much we liked each other...seems mad I know but we just seemed to click. Anyway I have been to see him twice now,bear in mind he lives 3 hours away. We had a brilliant time..but after this second time I don't know he seems different. He doesn't text as much now and doesn't send the cute messages he has done before. I'm 26 and he is 41, I assumed he was too old for silly mind games but am I wrong? He expresse interests in being with me but not as much as he did a couple of weeks ago. He tells me nothing has changed but I'm not convinced.Do you think he's interested or leading me on? Really confused as we get on great and have such a good laugh together!Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2014): All I can add here is: I hope that you didn't sleep with him. If you did, bad idea, period. I'd leave it alone and let him contact you...don't further participate in this. If you back-off he'll either miss you or...unfortunately, you will have the stark reality of KNOWING where you stand with him. Either way, living in fantasy world is bad and destructive. You are ONLY 26!!!! OMG if I could go back!!! You have YOUR entire life ahead of you! Take it from me, a 40-ish female who wasted too much time on mind-games and relationships that went NOWHERE. Still single, cannot have children due to age, wasted opportunities with morons and control freaks/jerks. You deserve better and CAN DO BETTER. PEACE.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (3 November 2014):
 It's only been three weeks.
sounds like he was attracted to your looks and as he gets to know you it may not be the best fit.
3 hours apart with an age gap of 15 years and a random meeting... it may work.. but it will take a lot of effort...
and a 41 year old man going after a 26 yr old woman may or may not be targeting an age group to help him feel younger.
At this point contact does not need to be daily.
it should not be all gushy and lovey... you two need at least 6 months of regular time together before you start worrying about how this is going.
how often do you two see each other? who travels to who or do you meet in the middle?
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