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female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:I have known this guy for 10 years we hit off right away. He has trust issues his ex wife cheated on him. I met his family last week he told me he loved me.He stopped talking to me. I am so confused he told my sister he is messed in the head and that I am sweet he does not want to hurt me. Will I ever talk to him again? Please help me I am so upset and confused. He told me his family loves me.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (2 April 2012):
 On the whole men operate with simplicity. I am not saying they arn't clever intelligent or wise, but that when they have their sights set on a goal, be it a job, a sports acheivement or a female, they will not waste any time in pursuing that goal...it's part of their manlyness to seek and conquer.
A man who shows confusing behaviour is simply not enough 'into' you to be clear and direct with his pursuance.
By making statements like
'he is messed up in the head' or
'he doesn't want to hurt you',
what he really means is
' I don't know what I want, but I am pretty sure it isn't you'
He will string you along for a while until he finds someone he really wants to be with and then you will be out in the cold.
I know this all sounds a little rough but I stand by the worly advice that 'You should take more notice of what a man does rather than what he says'
He said he loves you...but he isnt talking to you???
If he DID love you...he'd be calling you!!!
My advice would be to step away, break the contact on your end and get on with your life. I am not saying he won't change his mind, but unless he is backing it up with good consistent positive actions that you are completely comfortable with and lots of communication, then I'd give him a miss!!
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