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writes:I met this guy at a gig a couple of weeks ago and we really really hit it off that night but the thing is that we live miles apart with a small stretch of water between us and hes 26 and im 18, we have been texting non stop for a week and he suddenly stopped sending me messages on monday and only replys if i send him somthing... im not really sure whether im going mad or not or weather somthings up and what i should do without messing things up and i really want to make him feel special but im not really sure how to go about that. please help me xxx
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (23 June 2011):
 why do you want to make him feel special? - he isn't bothering to make you feel special is he?? i am guessing that he just sees you as someone casual and he has not promised any commitment to you so he may be dating other women already or has met someone else. which i know it sucks but he is perfectly within his rights to do so :(
i don't mean to be harsh, but you have to realise, if he was really into you he would be definitely making more of an effort to keep in contact with you, because he would not want to run the risk of you losing interest or doubting his interest and you going off and meeting someone else.
or to put it another way - if he was as into you as you seem to be into him - he would be doing what you are doing - texting you and wanting to make YOU feel special
as you seem to have been doing quite a bit of the chasing i would suggest you just wait now and see does he get in touch with you. if he does - great and then proceed by texting him a little bit less than you are doing, let him do a bit more of the work, men treat you better if you don't pursue them as much, trust me!
but.. if he doesn't contact you again now, at least you will have your answer as to how he really feels
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2011): I would view it same as a holiday fling, nice at the time but then back to the real world. Sounds like he's done thisIts great when we get on with someone but sometimes its just not meant to be.. Focus on those around you and don't text him - then it'll give him time to miss you - or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2011): 26 you said?! That's a pedo alert. Watch out hun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2011): I suppose a lot depends on whether the small stretch of water is a river, a lake, the Irish Sea or the English Channel. Distance is a romance killer unless you both have the necessary means to get to see each other.
Maybe he likes the fun of the chase and the excitement has gone. Maybe he figures the age gap is too big. Maybe he's already married or attached and she's found his phone. There could be any number of reasons for the lack of contact, but instead of all this texting, why not actually speak to him? I think for all the technological advances that have happened with mobile phones in recent times, you can still actually use them as telephones and talk to each other! If he doesn't answer, and doesn't call you back, give up; look elsewhere for your life partner and soulmate.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (23 June 2011):
 You need to stop texting him so much as you might scare him off a bit. Wait for him to text you. It could be a possibility that he has realised that nothing will ever happen between the both of you because of the distance. Just give it a week or two to see if he gets in touch and if he doesn't well then I think the best thing to do is to accept that he is not interested and move on.
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