A
female
age
36-40,
*hickerita
writes:suspicious manmy husband came home this morning from work and i noticed that his shirt and chest smelled girly and i asked him "why he smells like that?" he said that he doesn't smell anything and that it's probaly his sweat. and i told him that sweat doesn't smell girly. he then said honey if you think i am cheating on, i'm not. and then i let it go thinking that maybe it's the fabric softener i use. he then went to sleep. he then woke up for work and as he was getting ready i say him put deoterent on his shirt. and i think it was so that in the morning i wouldn't smell the girly smell on him again. when i asked him about it, he said he did it because his shirt stinks. i told him that he hasn't worried about his shirt stinking before. he has never put deoterent on his shirt before. it seems really funny that he does that after what i had said earlier. what is your advice on this? do you think that he could be cheating on me? how do i find out? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2007): i believe he`s either cheating or attempting to,no man smells girly unless he`s been to close and he`s trying to make you believe its your washing conditioner,wouldnt you have noticed this before,open your eyes and stay silent for a while then pounce
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female
reader, mummymeme  +, writes (2 May 2007):
Hi 'a Female'
From reading your letter i can hear your worries,the key lies in his original reply "its probably his sweat" this is probably why he sprayed his shirt the next morning with deodorant, there maybe two reasons for this, one that he doesnt want the questions and acusations again or that if you can smell him then other people can too. This may still be innocent, look at other areas - is he staying later at work? when he comes home from a night out with the boys, does he smell of the pub or freshly showered? has he changed his aftershave? is he dressing differently? and the biggest tell tale sign - has the amount and way he makes love changed? there is usually more than one sign to signal cheating, i would play the loving woman in his life and secretly keep an eye on his actions - if his attention have been drawn by your suspicions he will cover it up. I would reluctantly apologise for your mis-trust last night, let him know how much you love and need him. this should take the heat off, that same night make the most loving meal and sexual contact for him, this should make him see what he would be missing out on if he is cheating. Then you are free to keep an eye on him, then if you find he is cheating you, you can calmly decide what YOU want to do about it, you are in control of your future. Above all he may be innocent, dont react until you feel deep inside and have evidence he is cheating.
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