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*lohalani84
writes:Ok. I am 24 and my boyfriend is 40. We have been together for 3 years now. Recently we broke up because he was pushing me away and I ended up sleeping with someone. No excuse I know. Anyways. We broke up and he was introduced to this girl who is 2 years younger than him and they got together 5 times unprotected. We got back together and everything was going okay we were mending back our relationship because this man is also my best friend. About a week later I find out that he started talking to her again. Guess what they were talking about? She's pregnant now. She has 4 kids of her own 2 live with ex husband and the other 2 live with her and they are 1 and 3. Neither one of them believe in abortion but he dosen't want her kid, and he tells me that he dosen't even want her. He was just doing it to get back at me. He has 2 kids of his own as well. I want to marry this man with all my heart. How and what can I do to help the heartache of him giving her a child something I can't ever have. How do I cope with the pain and move on with him????? Help please.....
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (18 October 2008):
Wow, he's pretty stupid for someone his age.
You need to get checked for STD's as he could have given you anything if he's daft enough not to know how to use a condom.
As for how to cope with the pain, you are just going to have to put up with it. You have chosen to marry a man who used a girl to get revenge on you, who pushes you away, and who didn't have the brain cells to use a condom when having sex with a random woman.
If you decide to stay with this man then you are going to have a lot of pain in your life from him and you need to just accept it's going to happen and protect yourself.
You'll probably also need to get a better / second job as he's going to have to pay most of his salary out in child support and you will have to look after him.
Good Luck!! xx
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